You all might find this amusing.. It has to do with retraining those thoughts that got through all of our minds. (Betrayers.) Anyway, over the last 4 months, I have often almost felt badly for the OW. Sometimes she is SOOO clueless! FOr example, last week when I dropped the kids off with H and OW, I immediately told H that our 4 year old daughter needed a time-out. (she had been rather squirrley in the car) She sat on the couch and H and I went out to the car to get their things, etc. We talked for a few minutes and then H says, "Well, I'd better get back in. <OW> has no concept of what a time-out means, so <daughter> will be sitting there til I get back in!" I had to laugh. She must be trying so hard and yet failing so miserably. Yes, I am sure she is an ok person, but it takes more than that to suddenly become a pseudo-parent. I wonder just how much sh*t they realize they have gotten in to and the draw behind being willing to do all this. Pretty painful in my mind, even coming from someone who HAS children! <P>------------------<BR>Rachel :)<P>

I love that attitude!!! OK, I'm gonna try to switch mine to something like that rather than new ways to..........OHHHHH that wouldn't have been nice!<P>Good for you!<P>Lori

I do feel bad for the OW... If H ever got off his teeter-toter and ended up with her, how would she handle a house FULL of kids and paying child support <P>H lets others do everything, and OW would be the one working, which means child support would come outta her check....Hmmmm that wouldn't be fun....<P>I still don't know what to do, I want to meet with OW, and see my step-son who is 9 weeks older than my new lil' girl...<BR>I think H is playing both sides of the fence still, and I need to do full blown Plan B, but right now OW is love-busting giving ultimatums and I'm sitting back and just being the listening ear as a friend... <P>I think she's in a worse pickle no matter what the outcome will be...<P>cozy