Hey Markie

I did not want to threadjack.
I am usually pretty good when it comes to posting to WWs who are ambivalent and still foggy. There needs to be a minimum amount of humanity that I can grab ahold of and use to pry open the WW mind and let the sunlight in.

This is not the situation with this particular WW ...

This one particular WW has gotten to me - deep in my melon . She is so deliberately cruel that I have come to think that she may not be so much a WW who has a marriage to save as she is an OW who has a marriage to destroy.

She would seek to destroy my marriage if my H happened to be the object of her desire - I don't mind at all rebuking such a woman.

She currently says she's had NC for 3 days - she claimed to have NC on the first page of her thread - she is TOW from top to bottom .... there is no there there - not yet.

I despise her, quite frankly. Something I rarely feel about anyone on a message board. I think she's dangerous in her cruelty - so I mock her. I am not personally needing protection from her - but there are many wives who are so vulnerable that this TOW cannot be allowed to pretend to want help.

I loved your tool thread by the way.

Pep,

I guess I just felt like I might get through to her at some point and as long as she was willing to engage in dialog there might be a chance that some day she might "get it."

What got me was that she began by saying she was once here as a BW. That means she knowingly did this to somebody else. That makes this all the worse as far as I'm concerned.

I have no delusions that she is ready to do what is right, but like I said, as long as she is willing to dialog there is still a chance she might and end up Doing the right thing.

Someplace in there she really does know what is right.

It makes me mad too, but I would rather try to get through than to run her off because even if her marriage is lost, another one might be saved in the long run. The only way OM's wife will ever know the truth is if her H tells her, which doesn't seem likely or if this OW does what is right.

That's my motive.

It's a lot of mights but I've got nothing better to do right now for the next couple of days. Can't dance and it's too late to plow...

You're right for sure that it is OM's W that is most important right now.

Mark

Markie - I know your motives are pure - I am questioning MINE

I question myself all the time.

Sometimes I get an answer I wasn't looking for and that surprises the heck out of me.