I too have spent some time alone. Since Feb. of last year I didn't even consider dating until I took my finals in May of this year. Then I met a guy that was OK, but I just wasn't ready. We went out a few times, but there were so many things that I would have had to deal with that I knew at that point I couldn't take it all in and deal with it, so we decided to just be friends.
Then in Aug. I hooked back up with an old bf. He had gone to counseling and has stopped drinking, but he still has no understanding on controlling his "control issues" and the counselor diagnosed him a sex addict also. He won't go back to counseling. Says he doesn't have the money, but Fri went out and spent $150 on "fun stuff", so I know he could affort $27 for an office visit. He refused to work on radical honesty or the POJA. And I caught him in so many lies that I finally had enough on Sunday and just called it off.
At least I have learned when to back off and call it quits instead of putting myself through ****. Right now even the thought of being with another guy just makes me say YUK!! I don't want to go there again.
The 15 months I spent alone and in counseling, I actually got over being depressed all the time. I went out with friends, studied, went to school, gave massages, and studied some more!!
In fact I didn't even start feeling any depression again until I started going out with the previous bf. At least this time I dumped him before I let him drag me to the bottom where I couldn't pull myself up without help.
I'm just wondering if I'm only attracted to messed up guys or (considering I've only dated 2 since Feb of last year) if I just haven't gotten lucky and found a good one yet.
Either way - I AIN'T dating again for a while. I go for my National Board in massage therapy in 4 weeks and I DON'T need the stress that another relationship could cause. I'm happier by myself!! (and of course with friends
Think I'm kind of addicted to this place here. I know it always helps when I have a complicated Q to go ask Dr. H! And it helps to read up on everyone else's stuff and be able to relate to it.
Thanks again everybody!!