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My pastor is overseas, so I'm posing this question to you until he gets back... for some of you may have asked the same question.

So my husband is not a God fearing man. I know this is not the place to raise a child, so we've separated. I thought about just being separated, but I've decided I need a divorce to legally protect myself from his future problems (DUIs, bankruptcy, etc.).

The bible says "whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." He has not cheated, that I can find. So this means that if I find someone (someday WAY far in the future), I'm an adulterer? or am I missing something somewhere?


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WaterOak, I'm sorry that it's come to this, but I'm glad that you're taking steps to protect your daughter, even when it is hard. Plan B has a chance of helping a situation like this, so you may not need to worry about the remarriage part yet. I think in Matthew it says not to worry about tomorrow's problems, because tomorrow will bring it's own wink The Lord may still reveal Himself to your H.

That said, Dobson's Love Must be Tough goes into the different scenarios in detail. I encourage you to get it from the library and read through it. I think in there you will also find validation for your actions, the loving toughness to protect your family. Best wishes to you, wherever the road leads!


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We've been in plan B for months and I'm going to Alanon. He said this is ok with him, and refuses to give up the bottle (his OW). I have hope, but no expectations.

I know I'm doing the right thing. Right before Matthew 5 talks about divorce he talks about severing members to save the whole. That's what I'm doing... preserving the good. I'm ok with that (as painful as it is).

There's his porn, which is adultery of the heart, which could be seen as a valid reason, but I feel like I'm reaching a bit. If it's a sin, it's a sin (it's not like it's my first sin). It may just be the price I pay for marrying the wrong man and having my marriage on autopilot for so many years. We all make mistakes, that's what forgiveness is for.


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WaterOak,
I do understand your pain. You are right when you say sin is sin. If you did not feel you were doing the wrong thing in divorcing I don't think you would have ask the question. Even your pastor might not tell you what I am going to. I only want to give you another view and am not saying this is for everyone. My husband has a sexual addiction which I feel was and is because of generational sin. His father cheated on his mother, his grandmother had the same problem. So this has come down to him from generations before.
We have no children together and when I found out about his affair I was ready to let go. Then God started dealing with me and directing me to stand for my marriage. What that means is that I am to pray for my husband. Intercede for him to and before God. My husband is at this time living with another woman, they have been living together on and off for over a year. I should add we are also divorced by man's law not God's.
I still live as a married woman would I do not date and if my husband never came back in God's sight I should remain single. Trust me I don't like that part but I know that is what I must do. It gives you allot of incentive to pray hard for your husband smile
There are many things going on in my husbands life that show me that indeed God is at work. Just one of the nicer examples is that while the ow was gone for awhile we went to church together. It was a church we had went to years ago and in a different town so no one knew what was going on with us. The sermon the pastor preached on could have been written for my husband only. He cried all the way through it. Afterwards he told me God had gotten his attention. It was not enough she started calling him again and they are back together. As I said it is a sexual addiction and he had other women while she was gone and has still been trying to find more. There is much I could tell you that is going on but I only was trying to show you the option of standing for your marriage and that it is not always easy but at least in my case I feel it is right. Please pray and ask God what is right for you

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WaterOak, it seems to me, you take the Bible quite literally. I personally did divorce my H and have since remarried. I did nothing wrong in the eyes of my church even though my ex probably did not fornicate. Instead, my ex practiced financial infidelity and some claim he emotionally abused me.

However, if you do believe the Bible should be taken literally, In II Corinthians, Paul says "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"

You can also consider that Matthew says "a MAN shall not set aside his WIFE," he says nothing about a wife divorcing her husband. Considering that most women were powerless at the time, and could not divorce, Matthew probably didn't feel he needed to say anything about women initiating divorce. Also, consider that at the time, if a man divorced his wife, she was likely to have to turn to prostitution or begging in order to live. By telling men they should not divorce their wives because they got old, or were barren, or couldn't cook, Matthew was protecting women.


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I do take the bible quite literally. I do believe I married the wrong man. I've always been second (or third, or fifth), though I didn't believe it for YEARS. He has never loved me as God loves the church. I do remember seeing some text about an unholy union, not blessed by God, but I can't seem to find it at the moment.

Blah... this sucks.


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I know it sucks.

FWIW, I think God so inspired the writers of the Bible that there are loopholes for those who take it literally. After all, those who do take it literally don't go around chopping off hands and plucking out their eyes.

One of those loopholes could be that Matthew was talking about a man putting aside his wife, not a dutiful wife getting rid of her undutiful, uncaring housemate. You may have been married in the eyes of your church, but I have to wonder if you were married in God's eyes. I wonder that about a lot of bad marriages I've seen, including my first. I'm 99% sure God sent me all kinds of signs saying "Don't marry this one. Bad idea." And, idiot that I am, I ignored them all. God pretty much has to hit me over the head sometimes. I don't think God really considered B and me "one." We weren't, He knew it, and God's too smart to pretend.

I know you've been struggling with this dilemma a long time. You're in my prayers.


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Originally Posted by WaterOak
My pastor is overseas, so I'm posing this question to you until he gets back... for some of you may have asked the same question.

So my husband is not a God fearing man. I know this is not the place to raise a child, so we've separated. I thought about just being separated, but I've decided I need a divorce to legally protect myself from his future problems (DUIs, bankruptcy, etc.).
So then if you've decided, then what is the point of asking God, the pastor or anyone else? It seems to me that you've already decided what you want to do, and want folks to say your decision is OK.

I don't think that is how God works. I think God designed marriage to be a life long bond, which is why He wants us to pick carefully.

But, if we don't choose carefully, I don't think God says, here is you way out. Remember the words of Jesus, to paraphrase, divorce is not part of God's plan. He allows it, but it's not God's design for divorce to happen.

The history of mankind is full of all sorts of rules where we try to get around God's designs.
Originally Posted by WaterOak
The bible says "whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." He has not cheated, that I can find. So this means that if I find someone (someday WAY far in the future), I'm an adulterer? or am I missing something somewhere?

I think that's exactly what it says. If you choose to leave a man who is sexually faithful then you are choosing to put yourself in a position where you may commit adultery in the future, should you choose to marry again.

You'll hear all sorts of folks saying you deserve happiness, etc. Frankly, I find little in scripture about being happy. Happy is transient. I think God is far more concerned about your holiness.

You say your husband doesn't fear God. Does that mean he is not a believer, or merely that he doesn't practice his faith. For if he's a member of the church, then it's possible he could come under church discipline.

If your state has legal protections under separation then I can't see any reason not to pursue legal separation and if your husband wants to work on the marriage, you can give him the pastor's contact information and he could coach your husband into a proper relationship with God and as your husband.

If one goes all the way back to the fall of man in Genesis 3, God doesn't accept our excuses for our sinful behavior when we try to blame others.

God refused Adam's blameshift towards Eve, God refused Eve's blameshift towards the serpent. So I don't think God will treat anyone's blameshift towards their spouse for human thinking such as financial infidelity, or emotional infidelity or basically any kind of human imagined infidelity other than the one God clearly states, which is sexual infidelity, I don't think God's going to say He's OK with the sin of choosing to divorce a sexually faithful spouse.

I think of the story of Abigail and Nabal. Nabal was a foolish (his name actually means fool) abusive husband, and yet Abigail was faithful to him and actually acted to protect him from David's anger.

Abigail trusted God to take care of the matter, and God struck down her husband and she became David's wife.

Personally, I think that's the example God wants us to follow. I'm not saying someone being abused needs to stick around to be a punching bag. I think they are to seek safety. But that doesn't mean they get a free ride to unilaterally end their marriage.

I think the believer is called to try to remain in the marriage. But if offending spouse, the abuser, addict, adulterer etc, chooses divorce, I think in that case, the believer is free and actually called to let them go.

But in any case that doesn't involve sexual infidelity with another person, I believe God calls believers to do everything possible to work out the marriage, and if the marriage is to end, it is to be at the hands of the offending spouse, not the faithful, believing spouse.

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I know it sucks.

FWIW, I think God so inspired the writers of the Bible that there are loopholes for those who take it literally. After all, those who do take it literally don't go around chopping off hands and plucking out their eyes.

One of those loopholes could be that Matthew was talking about a man putting aside his wife, not a dutiful wife getting rid of her undutiful, uncaring housemate. You may have been married in the eyes of your church, but I have to wonder if you were married in God's eyes. I wonder that about a lot of bad marriages I've seen, including my first. I'm 99% sure God sent me all kinds of signs saying "Don't marry this one. Bad idea." And, idiot that I am, I ignored them all. God pretty much has to hit me over the head sometimes. I don't think God really considered B and me "one." We weren't, He knew it, and God's too smart to pretend.

I know you've been struggling with this dilemma a long time. You're in my prayers.

If you take a vow before God, then you ARE married in the eyes of God. Your marital status doesn't hinge on what your spouse is doing or is not doing, you are married.

The only reason stated in scripture where God is "OK" with choosing divorce and later remarrying is in the case of sexual infidelity.

Any other case where a believer chooses to divorce, they are choosing to commit adultery.

There are no gender based loopholes. Today, women have the power to choose to divorce, so if they choose to divorce a man who is faithful, the are guilty of this sin.

Now all sins are forgivable. Yet Paul tells us that we are not to keep sinning so that grace can flourish. We are called to be holy, not necessarily happy.

From what I read in scripture, God is more interested in us finding joy, His Joy in being obedient to his Word.

Personally, I don't think any believer should counsel or encourage another believer to choose to divorce. In my opinion, in most cases that advice is encouraging another believer to sin. Given scriptures warnings about causing another to stumble, I cannot in good conscience counsel any believer to choose divorce.

Scripture is the story of God seeking reconciliation with his unfaithful bride, Israel. He went as far as to send His son to die for the sins of Israel and the whole of humanity. I don't think God wants us to divorce simply because we are not happy, or we are scared, or anything else like that.

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I had talked to my pastor about my husband's drinking awhile back. He had talked to my husband and my husband denied everything. After that my husband became very abusive. My pastor and and I both decided that if the drinking continued (along with his anger problems and emotional infidelity) it would be best for us to separate. There is much scripture warning to stay away from drunkards... not even to dine with them. A separation would be necessary to protect DD and I financially and physically. A DUI or accident involving alcohol could be really bad for us if we're tied to him (thus the severing to save the whole). Unfortunately my state does not have a legal separation. It's just married or divorced, so in order to protect DD and I, I need a divorce.

I've also thought, this is protecting him too. I'll put up with alot. He can abuse me all he wants and I'll eventually forgive him. If he starts that with DD, I'll NEVER forgive him. There will be no reconciliation. The only thing between him and DD right now is me and I can't be there all the time. It seems strange to me that a separation would protect a marriage, but in this case it will. The pain has to stop in order to heal. If he will not stop the pain then I will.

To me, it looks like the scripture says if I am to divorce, I am to remain alone. After much reading and prayer, I think that's what I will do. I know God hates divorce; I would do a legal separation if my state allowed it. So I will file and consider this a long term 'Plan B'.


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I've been reading your thread.

My husband is a recovering addict. On our wedding day, he knew he was an addict, and he failed to disclose this to me. I do believe this would be strong enough for an annullment if we were to divorce.

If we would have to divorce at some point, I wouldn't want to marry again. I don't know how old your child is, but both of mine are under 5. Frankly, I'd have no energy to date. I barely have enough energy now to work, take care of the kids and help with home caring tasks.

I've also learned that all my "intimate" relationships (with my parents and my husband) are and have been unsafe. I don't really know that I'd want to put myself in a position where I could enter another unsafe relationship. I actually don't trust myself to make a wise choice, should that ever present itself.

Because of all of my baggage, should I need to divorce, I think I'd prefer to stay alone..



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Originally Posted by WaterOak
I do take the bible quite literally. I do believe I married the wrong man. I've always been second (or third, or fifth), though I didn't believe it for YEARS. He has never loved me as God loves the church. I do remember seeing some text about an unholy union, not blessed by God, but I can't seem to find it at the moment.

Blah... this sucks.

WaterOak - I am one who does take the Bible "literally."

It IS possible that you married the wrong man, as in disobeying God's teaching to "not be unequally yoked."

If your husband is NOT a believer, then it's rather naive to think that he would even "consider" being obedient to God, don't you think?



Originally Posted by WaterOak
My pastor is overseas, so I'm posing this question to you until he gets back... for some of you may have asked the same question.

Okay, let's see if we can give you some Biblically based input to consider.



Originally Posted by WaterOak
So my husband is not a God fearing man. I know this is not the place to raise a child, so we've separated. I thought about just being separated, but I've decided I need a divorce to legally protect myself from his future problems (DUIs, bankruptcy, etc.).

The bible says "whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." He has not cheated, that I can find. So this means that if I find someone (someday WAY far in the future), I'm an adulterer? or am I missing something somewhere?

Actually, a more correct translation is "marital unfaithfulness."

That is one of the reasons why a believing spouse is told by God to REMAIN married to an unbelieving spouse IF the unbelieving spouse DOES fulfill his/her maritial roles that God has assigned, AS IF he was a believer.

But if the unbelieving spouse chooses to leave, Paul has made it clear that the believing spouse should "let them go."

While "marital unfaithfulness" is most commonly associated with sexual sin, it is not the only form of unfaithfulness. However, between two BELIEVERS, Christ was clear (and you cannot "parse" or "read into" the text that it only applied to MEN) that "marital unfaithfulness" was grounds to end a marriage.

Between a believer and an unbeliever, the same is binding upon the believer.

While it is true that God hates all divorce, it is equally true that God hates "infidelity" in marriage just as much.

Please rememeber that God is a God of Peace and will not "require" you remain in a marriage that does not bring Him honor and glory.

God bless.

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It IS possible that you married the wrong man, as in disobeying God's teaching to "not be unequally yoked."

Yup, totally failed on that one. As an excuse, I will say that my husband does say he's a believer... in the sense that if you ask him "is there a God" he will say "yes", but that's where it ends. He has not joined any church and lives a lifestyle that is rather sinful. For some reason I expected this to change when we got married. I was listening to what he SAID and not looking at what he DID. Sometimes I'm amazed at how blind I can be.

You're right. There is no way this marriage (in its current state) can bring Him honor and glory. He hates divorce, but he also hates drunkenness, etc. I don't think He'd want me to stay and allow my daughter and I to be abused just to keep from divorcing.



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It IS possible that you married the wrong man, as in disobeying God's teaching to "not be unequally yoked."

Yup, totally failed on that one. As an excuse, I will say that my husband does say he's a believer... in the sense that if you ask him "is there a God" he will say "yes", but that's where it ends. He has not joined any church and lives a lifestyle that is rather sinful. For some reason I expected this to change when we got married. I was listening to what he SAID and not looking at what he DID. Sometimes I'm amazed at how blind I can be.

You're right. There is no way this marriage (in its current state) can bring Him honor and glory. He hates divorce, but he also hates drunkenness, etc. I don't think He'd want me to stay and allow my daughter and I to be abused just to keep from divorcing.

I guess the answer would depend on your denomination. If you were Catholic you would need to seek annullment in order to remarry.

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I guess the answer would depend on your denomination. If you were Catholic you would need to seek annullment in order to remarry.

That IS one of the RCC traditions. But it is not mentioned anywhere in Scripture.

Jesus is the "definitive word" on this subject, and He was quite clear that the Pharasitic "tradition" concerning "ending" (or annuling if you prefer) a marriage was wrong. The marriage was never to be "decreed" as "not having existed." Jesus spoke to the conditions upon which a divorce could be granted whereby the faithful spouse would not then commit adultery if they later chose to remarry.


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Originally Posted by WaterOak
my husband does say he's a believer... in the sense that if you ask him "is there a God" he will say "yes", but that's where it ends. He has not joined any church and lives a lifestyle that is rather sinful.

There are MANY people who "say" they are believers, but who don't necessarily believe in Christ, don't believe that Jesus IS God the Son, and who simply think that merely saying they are believers is "enough."

That "idea" is refuted by Jesus who clearly revealed to us that there will be MANY, who on the Judgment Day, are rejected. He will tell them "Away from me you evildoers, I NEVER knew you."

Given that Jesus will NOT "lose" any that ARE His, it is clear that many never were saved, regardless of what they might like to think. The reason for that is also very simple, God has revealed to us what it is that DOES provide a "saving faith."

And as long as we are living, it is "never too late."

However, to your issue at hand, God will NOT require you remain in an abusive marriage. He grants believers the CHOICE to remain or to divorce, but not for "irreconcilable differences," aka, simply because I "want to".


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FH wrote:
It IS possible that you married the wrong man, as in disobeying God's teaching to "not be unequally yoked."

If your husband is NOT a believer, then it's rather naive to think that he would even "consider" being obedient to God, don't you think?



Originally Posted By: WaterOakMy pastor is overseas, so I'm posing this question to you until he gets back... for some of you may have asked the same question.

Okay, let's see if we can give you some Biblically based input to consider.



Originally Posted By: WaterOakSo my husband is not a God fearing man. I know this is not the place to raise a child, so we've separated. I thought about just being separated, but I've decided I need a divorce to legally protect myself from his future problems (DUIs, bankruptcy, etc.).

The bible says "whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." He has not cheated, that I can find. So this means that if I find someone (someday WAY far in the future), I'm an adulterer? or am I missing something somewhere?

Actually, a more correct translation is "marital unfaithfulness."

That is one of the reasons why a believing spouse is told by God to REMAIN married to an unbelieving spouse IF the unbelieving spouse DOES fulfill his/her maritial roles that God has assigned, AS IF he was a believer.

But if the unbelieving spouse chooses to leave, Paul has made it clear that the believing spouse should "let them go."

While "marital unfaithfulness" is most commonly associated with sexual sin, it is not the only form of unfaithfulness. However, between two BELIEVERS, Christ was clear (and you cannot "parse" or "read into" the text that it only applied to MEN) that "marital unfaithfulness" was grounds to end a marriage.

Between a believer and an unbeliever, the same is binding upon the believer.

While it is true that God hates all divorce, it is equally true that God hates "infidelity" in marriage just as much.

Please rememeber that God is a God of Peace and will not "require" you remain in a marriage that does not bring Him honor and glory.

God bless.


I think FH's post bears repeating. I'm a Christian, but I believe the Bible is open to interpretation, so I'm not necessarily the best to advise WaterOak. I have always thought that Matthew meant "marital unfaithfulness," and I would have argued that, but for the fact that KJB says "adultery." Now, if a person wants to take it so literally as to mean solely sexual infidelity, than I posit it is an equally valid arguement to point out that it says Men divorcing Wives. However, I believe that would indeed be following the letter but not the spirit.

And, WaterOak, just in case you miss the MOST important part of FH's post: Please rememeber that God is a God of Peace and will not "require" you remain in a marriage that does not bring Him honor and glory.


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I guess the answer would depend on your denomination. If you were Catholic you would need to seek annullment in order to remarry.

That IS one of the RCC traditions. But it is not mentioned anywhere in Scripture.

Jesus is the "definitive word" on this subject, and He was quite clear that the Pharasitic "tradition" concerning "ending" (or annuling if you prefer) a marriage was wrong. The marriage was never to be "decreed" as "not having existed." Jesus spoke to the conditions upon which a divorce could be granted whereby the faithful spouse would not then commit adultery if they later chose to remarry.

Do us a favor and please don't use MB to try and convert me. I'm Catholic and you're not going to change that by breaking out your 'scripture only' theology.

I was kind enough to answer the poster with what my religion teaches why don't you just do the same with yours and leave what I believe alone?

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I agree that both of you should leave each other alone. Period. There is no reason iam for you to think he is trying to convert you. I saw nowhere mentioned that he thought "YOU" should live your life any other way.
However, WaterOak is not Catholic from what I gather in her writing - so at the same time - if you take what was said as trying to "convert", then your statement to WO could be seen at the same.
If I see anymore of all of this going on between the two of you I will report it. I didin't come here to hear religious bickering between two different faiths.

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Originally Posted by iam
Do us a favor and please don't use MB to try and convert me. I'm Catholic and you're not going to change that by breaking out your 'scripture only' theology.

I was kind enough to answer the poster with what my religion teaches why don't you just do the same with yours and leave what I believe alone?

With all due respect, iam, she spoke about her PASTOR, not her Priest.

You interjected RCC dogma, not I, as if RCC doctrine made anything less than annulment somehow "substandard." I merely responded to her that what you were "offering" for consideration was NOT in the Bible and IS RCC tradition only.

But I understand your aversion to "Scripture Only," as that is a problem with the Roman Catholic Church and many of it's traditions and dogmas.

What the Bible says is that "all Scripture is God-breathed (inspired)...." It does not say that the RCC traditions are inspired, or necessarily correct, anymore than Jesus thought all of the Jewish laws and traditions (formulated by men) were correct.

If you really want to get into that sort of discussion or argument, let me know and we can move it to its own thread.

If you don't want to, then please stop trying to falsely accuse me of trying to "convert" you, or "convert" anyone else for that matter. But I WILL stand on Scripture and ask you to support YOUR "opposing" position with God's Word if that is what you want to argue.


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