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What does it mean to accept something? I don't mean in the literal sense, but as it relates to life or relationships. I've seen a couple of threads lately that seem to touch on this, but it seems like everyone has a different definition. Just wondering what those definitions are.
Me 43 BH
MT 43 WW
Married 20 years, No Kids, 2 Difficult Cats
D-day July, 2005
4.5 False Recoveries
Me - recovered
The M - recovered
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It depends on the context. I can accept that events have occured - which would be the opposite of being in denial. At the same time, I can refuse to accept certain behaviors or circumstances yet-to-occur, despite being based on the events that have already occured. For example, I will under no circumstances accept the presence of OW at my home. While you might think this is obvious, I'm still considered an unreasonable b!+c4 because I made WstbxH drop her off at the coffee shop down the street when he came to move stuff out last year. I can accept the reality that he is living with OW, but I don't have to accept their presence into my life. Make sense?
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What does it mean to accept something? It means you finally catch your breath and realize that this isn't going to kill you after all.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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