I just wanted to say that i went back to church for the first time in a while. I'm so happy that i went last Sunday. The message was don't give up. That ment a lot to me because of my marriage. As you know i'm going threw a divorce. So i went to see her lawyer about the paper i have gat. I went there so scared but i listen to the message from church not to give up. so i told the lawyer that i wanted counseling before i sign the papers. He looked at me with evilness. I didn't sign the papers which made me really happy that i stood up for myself and what i believe. My heart believes that my marriage can be save. I ask everyone to pray for me and my wife dawn to save our marriage. this split so far is making me a better person and a stronger person. I pray everyday that my marriage can be saved i love her and my two step kids that i call my own. I'm going back to church as well. I want her to see the new me and we can start a new chapter in our lifes and be together.

I too am starting to find God again....during my marriage I lost him through all the fighting, bickering and negative things. Keep at it.....God has a plan for us all, we just need to be there ready to take that plan with a pure heart and the knowledge that God is standing right beside us....

I started going to church the Sunday after my H left so I know how you feel. The thing is . . .I didn't find God. . .He was there all along . . .waiting for me to look up and start walking the walk. It took my husband leaving me and seeing the pain and hurt in his eyes. . .a total disaster. . .to wake me up to the things I've been doing wrong. If you look at my other thread, you will see that sometimes I am still unwilling to believe that I did/said so many horrible things. That I want to blame him for things but I must take responsibility for my actions. The soul searching continues for me.

Here are some good sites:

www.bible.com
www.crosswalk.com
www.divorcecare.org

Hi - First time posting here. My H filed for divorce but still has not left the house. I also came home to God and cannot believe I needed to be so broken before finding my way back. I also believe he intends for me to save my marriage but it will be very hard work. Please pray for me as my husband is not open to reconciling. He is very hurt after discovering my A 3 mos ago.

i will pray for you. I know its hard because i'm in the same boat. It's going to be hard work but everything will be ok in the long run.

God can heal broken marriages. I am a stander for my marriage after finding out about my husbands affair and now he is living with the ow. God is still in control. If you are interested you might check out a couple of web sites.

http://www.rejoiceministries.org/

http://www.cprmarriageministry.org/

These are free to join and have been a great help to me.

God bless

My church threw me out for my wife divorcing me after I exposed her affair.

Sometimes we have to hit "rock bottom" before we are willing to accept the help God wants to give us. Unfortunatly a lot of us don't rely on him until we have no other options. Sad but true. I come from a long line of pastors and my husband and I have been music ministers since we married in '97. I've realized during these past few months that I had been "going through the motions" and was lacking a personal relationsip with God. I am now facing the most difficult situation of my life. My family is being held together by a tiny thread because of my H's infidelity among other things. It's through this that I realize how much I need God. He is my strength and my comfort. Although we do need the support of our church, it is that "personal relationship" with God that will sustain us. We also have to realize that God's will for us may not be what we desire but ultimately it will be the best for us.

Hi LM -- I have a question that perhaps you can answer. Back in August I had asked my pastor how I would know what God's will for my marriage is. At the time, I was contemplating divorce just to "get it over with." My pastor's response was "Well, God's will is God's word -- so what does God's word say about marriage?" So I replied, "God hates divorce and that marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman." He smiled and nodded.

So, it seems that there are contrary opinions (depending on who you talk to) on what God wants for us -- marriages saved or not?

Any thoughts. . .