Just thought I'd drop in and let everyone know that I'm still on a great recovery road. H and I are spending a lot of nice time together, we're really sharing and communicating. The peace that we have found is nothing short of incredible. We are coming up on our wedding anniversary and I feel like this will be the first one where we deserve to consider ourselves married.

H and I have done a lot of work together looking back through our relationship and finding the places that we allowed weaknesses. We are taking a class right now at our church that discusses the 10 Commandments and how to include them in your marriage (its called Couples Connection). We are finding that so much of what is being taught is something that we are already doing...a great reinforcement to know that we're doing ok.

We've reassessed our friendships with others, making sure that the couples we are around are positive in their marriages. We are making time for recreational activities alone together and with the kids. We are still locking the door at night and sleeping in the buff something that I recommend to all. We're talking about our days...H is sharing more of his life with me and learning to balance work and home. I still feel like a school-girl some evenings waiting for him to get home. I just can't wait to see him.

I still have occasional triggers or twinges of doubt, but H handles them with such ease. I have no trouble telling him now if something bothers me or reminds me of the A. And his response is validating and reassuring.

I know it all sounds like a fairytale...but it's the truth. I wanted to let others here know that it CAN happen. We are a testimony to it.

Thanks for that Mogi,

Its really encouraging to read this. I know you have had some issues, so this is great.

FWIW I talked about the buff sleeping with Flick and the closed door policy. We tried it out for a few weeks but have gone back to nightwear.... we live under a mountain and its still spring Not to mention he is an on call fireman and as soon as he gets nekid the siren goes off :RollieEyes:

But we LOVE the closed door thing!! I so recommend it.
Thanks

thanks for the inspiration...many of us need to hear it.