Hi, folks, I would like your opinion on this situtation.
Things have calmed down quite a bit between the current g/f and myself. We have learned to talk things out and to simply excuse ourselves if the other is getting a bit hot under the collar. It has worked very well and the relationship is MUCH smoother. But now a new issue has emerged.
We had been planning to take a European vacation next year together. Unfortunately, the g/f was recently laid off from her job. She found a new one, but at about 30% less pay.
Because she does not have as much money to spend, she told me we would have to cancel our European Vacation plans. I have offered to pay her airfare to Europe next year to help out as well as any other transportation needs we have in Europe (taxi, trains, rental car). I can afford it as long as we don't travel first class all the time.
She can afford her share of rooms and food if I pay the rest. Besides, I have airline miles I want to use before they become even less valuable. She politely refused my offer saying we should plan a less expensive vacation nearby, perhaps the Western states or Canada. Something we can do by car.
I should point out at this time that she has traveled extensively in Europe when she lived there for almost 10 years with her former husband. I have only been there a few times and I really want to go again next year.
So I suggested to her that since she refused my offer, I think I would just go to Europe myself IN ADDITION TO ANY TRAVEL WE DO TOGETHER NEXT YEAR. I am not replacing a vacation with her just adding an additional one for me. I am fortunate to have the time, airline miles, and money to do both.
She is not happy with that idea at all.
Your thoughts. ?????