Hi all
Well it's been 16 months since d-day and now I'm in a place that I never thought possible. I went through he11. 6 months of Plan A and 3 months of Plan B and that was enough for me. Back in march 08 I decided that I deserved better. I had been slowly getting on with my life up until that point but always had a little hope that my WW would come out of the fog. But when I found out about OM#2 that was it.
I was devestated for a few days but that was the END. I accepted things for what they were and made the decision to move on. So in May totally unexpected I met an amazing woman. She had been abandoned while pregnant and has a beautiful little girl 7 days older than my DS.
We hit it off immediately! So much so that I honestly feel like I've never even been in love before! I sometimes look back and think "how did I put up with my WW emotionally raping me for months on end?" But then I'm happy that I did everything I could to save my family from divorce (which is all finalised since july) and I have moved on with no regrets and no guilt what so ever.
My WW is still with OM#2 and seems to be happy. I have no feelings for her at all. I am civil when it comes to DS but I have no desire to spend time with a person like her. Although if she had her way we would all be the best of friends.
So here I am, crazy in love with the most amazing woman I've ever met. I asked her to marry me, she said yes and we're getting married in january. I had honestly had no idea what its like to be in love with someone who loves you back! I wonder if I ever really had that with WW? Looking back I gave everything and she just took. Its different this time and I am using MB principles to ensure that this time it does indeed last a lifetime.
So for all you BS's in pain and agony like I was, don't put up with the abuse of an Affair. Do what you can in Plan A but don't stay there for too long. Plan B really is amazing in the peace it can bring. Remember the most important person is YOU! If you can't save your M, its still possible to be very happy. The way you feel today is not the way you'll feel next year. Steve Harley told me that if I expected that my WW's feeling for me could change, then I had to accept that my feelings towards her could. And he was right! Do everything, follow the Plans here. To me the MB's plans are ultimately a Plan to help you come to terms with the breakdown of something you thought would last forever. The Plans are for YOU. If they don't save your M they will save YOU.
Above all remember the MB plans DO NOT FAIL! Either they will work, or they will WORK!
God speed everyone!
P.S. Hi BigK...thanks for everything! Hope all is good with you
Last edited by myfamilyilove; 10/20/08 11:42 PM.
