Married 5 years, the last 6 months she was having an affair and then we seperated, she is still seeing him today,a little over a year they have been together. 2 months to go to finalize the divorce, and she is now calling wanting to make the marriage work. We have no children together, she has 2 from her last marriage, And the father has nothing to do with the kids. When we got seperated i came to this website and had a few post and i ordered some books and the books where great, it had convinced me that maybe i did not give her enough attention and that is why she did what she did. So there for I"m back here with another post... No kids and she cheated and did not work and our finances where a mess,and i really needed her to have some kind of income but she would not do it. But i really did love her,and her and i had a great relatoinship OVERALL, but with all that she has done it seems so much easier to get on with my life and just let her go. As i said the books that i read from here still wanted me to give her a second chance. I made my mistakes, I did not cheat or abuse her, I admit that maybe i did at times not give her the attention she needed,but yet we where great friends and NO problem sexually...

She sounds like a serial problem starter. I would tell her have a nice life - without me.

Then get some counseling to find out what attracted you to her. Many people have a 'fixer' complex where they get fulfilled by taking care of a wounded person. If so, you'll just pick the same kind of woman next time.

How old are you?

Was the affair exposed?

Has WW been willing to answer your questions about the affair?

"she is still seeing him today" means dating or living with?

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No he is not living with her but he does come over and spend the night with her a few times a week.

Yes i exposed the affair..

I have talked to her about it but she would just say she messed up she would not really talk about it, she said she wanted to wait for marriage counseling... But to wait until 2 months until the divorce and she has been with him for a little over a year.. I'm having a hard time beleiving in her again...

As far as her being a wounded person i really did not see it, we really just where having a great time together and then fell in love.. there where no big problems that i noticed..