Hi all,
The R I believe is going fine, at least for FWH. I believe I am really meeting his needs. But I feel like I was the WS at times trying to win him back. I feel he is just doing his normal stuff, he has started doing more things like kisses when we in the car and hugs once in a while but other than that it is just lame to me.
I am here writing a letter to him about it. I realized last night that I am still having those 'nothing is good for you' feelings. He rarely acknowledges the things I do. For instance, we just moved about 2/3weeks ago. I cleaned the living room up really good, at first there was barely room to walk, but I didn't do much with the kitchen. He comes in, nothing. I said, 'you ain't see how nice it is'. He said 'yea, but the kitchen is a mess'(He said it in a joke way, that I don't mind, my problem is that at least acknowledge, all the work I did). Then from the time I moved in here I have been keeping the kitchen really clean, even washing twice a day. Last night I had a piece of sandwich left in a plate, so I took it out, while holding my toddler to eat and left the plate on the counter. He did a 'eye thing' took it up and put it in the sink. So I ask him about it, of course because I left it there (huh... so what about when the kitchen have been kept clean for 3 f-ing weeks).
I don't ride him when he leaves things behind. I just pick them up and put them back, I close the cabinets when left open, ect... but I don't keep a list of things so I don't remember all the things because I don't have it is a big deal.
Geez, a little praise and acknowledgement goes a long way. I sometimes wonder if it is just something with him. Sometimes I feel like I am talking to much about what i don't like and he has nothing to say. Even when I ask what he would like for me too do. He can't think of anything. But yet I usually have a list. And sometimes I feel like it is too much for him right now, but I find these things should just come naturally.
I know before me he had a bad 5 year relationship that was rocky and dramaful from the start, which lead to a very short marriage and then divorce. He said that, that his history has played a part in the way he do things, but news flash, I am not your past.
