What is it that you first find attractive in the opposite sex?

What is a turn on for you with the opposite sex?


Someone last week mad the comment that they were having a hard time going from wife and mother to girlfriend material, this really struck me, I was thinking the same thing but could not put it into words!!!

So now I am thinking what is it that would attract a guy to me. I've mentioned many times how independent it is that I am and am capable of taking care of many household chores and improvements. I am a care taker, I do for everybody!

So are these things that would attract a guy? I am not a knock out by any means but haven't sent any dogs running lately!!!

So help me and others out that may be feeling some of these ame type of things!!!!

What makes you want to talk to someone of the opposite sex?

Dawn

He's breathing

He's not using sign language.

You guys are hilarious!

Anyway, back to the original question, I'm not a man but in my experience, they don't give a hoot about how well you cook and clean until you're living with them. Have you ever gone into a bachelor pad? In my 40+ years, I have only ever once witnessed with my own eyes a man, other than a paid janitor, cleaning a bathroom. I didn't think such a thing actually existed. My only regret is that I didn't have a camera. You guys will just have to take my word on it.

Now, once you are married or living together, he wants June Cleaver.

I would say beauty is important. not being hot, but being well-dressed, well-groomed, and putting effort into looking the best that you can. Guys like to feel wanted, boost their ego.

Since my divorce, I've no longer relied on the initial "hotness" factor, because in my experience, the hotties turn out to be the ones that I would NOT want a long term relationship with....

So, I wait until the 2nd or 3rd meeting (or date) to decide if I'm attracted or not. Physical attraction is important eventually.......but I have to LIKE you first........so a nice smile, good grooming, good moral standards, independence, stability, confidence, etc. are what works for me..........

LMAO! I cleaned both of my bathrooms Saturday, vacuumed every surface, swept, wet Swiffered, washed all of the rugs, the toilets did not require work as I clean them regularly. You'll freak in a different way if you saw my house!

I don't even like leaving a glass in the sink!

I concur and at this point I emphasize personalities, i.e. someone who is an outgoing social-monster like I am. Appearance is secondary but I do have preferences in that area.

I told this to my friend Jerry Friday night. I am no longer interested in beautiful hot women. They are high-maintenance, always late, self-centered, self-important, their whole mental makeup is about their looks, and looks fade, sometimes very quickly, leaving a shattered and twisted empty gourd. Except for the very few, they have rather severe self-image, self-esteem, and insecurity issues and many border on being mentally unwell. Men tend to want them for one thing and that one thing they're generally not spectacular at, rendering their most effective function as being arm-candy for an equally insecure man.

That being said, if your beautifully hot and sane and appreciate a man whose home has 2 clean bathrooms, my email address is included in my signature.

Intelligence, humor, confidence and accomplishments. Looks are important too, but I don't care if he is dense, doesn't seem to have fun and lives with his parents because he makes minimum wage.

I don't think most men are going to care if a woman can cook and clean until they are further into the relationship. Men are more visual so looks will be a factor. While a woman doesn't have to be Ms. America, it helps to be attractive or at least not look dumpy.

Here's what I look for:

Outgoing personality.
Has a career.
Low in baggage.
Owns a home.
Owns a car.
Is financially solvent.
Has no debilitating medical issues (you wouldn't believe my experience in this!)
Is height-weight proportionate.
Prefer non-high-maintenance on a daily basis, but someone that can produce an exceptional result when required.
A sparkling conversationalist, because after everything else is said and done, I want someone that I can have well-spoken and intelligent conversation with for the rest of my life. This is a super-rare quality.
Can engage my intelligence.
Knows the definitions of reciprocity.
Is versed in negotiation skills.
Is emotionally mature.
Has a great family and a great relationship with their family.
Has the time available in her schedule to actually date. You'd be surprised at what a problem this is.
Is on time for everything.
Can cook so I don't have to do it all of the time.
Must drink beer. Other beverages optional.
Likes to dance.
Has broad tastes in music and film, has seen "The Seventh Seal" and listened to Devotchka.
Likes pointy-toed high-heels and boots and wears them often.
Likes to garden.
Likes a tidy and organized environment.
Likes me and digs my act.
Has enough fashion-sense and tact to help me dress better.

Of course, all of that being said, I know I'm never going to find that woman.

Stop being such a flirt, booka!!! A woman can handle only so much!!!! I am seeing someone you know!

booka I like your list!

Many of my friends had lists this summer and my only requirement at that time was that the guy have teeth!!!! Ok, know that I have been in the dating force a little more, I am finding that there is more that I want.

As we all know butts are one of those things that I check out and then the smile.

But all is said and done I want someone that wants me for me!!!! I am a jeans and tshirt type person. I can dress to the nines when needed, I don't do the pointy toe shoes as they are hard as hell to walk in, but do own some high heels that I am capable of walking in!

booka, you are not the only guy that I know that is a picky cleaner. My friend Kevin is the same way, he cleans on a regular routine, makes me sick when you walk into his house!!!! He is a filer and I am a piler! My house is clean, I probably have things out that need to be put away!

It is fun to see what other people perspective on the issue is!

Dawn

YEAH BOOKA! Stop it! I fail in the family department (my family is very, very small, and we don't see each other often enough) - and I wouldn't call me super hot either (although I do clean up well) and I do like beer.....The pointy toe shoes, well, I have several pair and wear them when necessary (they are torturous).......

However, my BF here probably wouldn't be too happy if I drove off to St. Louis to meet up with a new guy......so stop flirting!!!

Laura

¥eah stop flirting!!! booka!!!

Didn't we see how long distance relationships on here go!!!!

Dawn

I notice a womans face and hair first. Do I find her face attractive.

Long dark hair. Key word is long. Can wear it plain, does not have to be a high maintenance style. Short hair I associate with being an old fuddy duddy.

Attitude and smile.

Her to be fit. Appropriate weight for her height. Rack size alone does not make a woman look hot. I've seen big racked woman that made me want to hurl my cookies, and small racked woman that were hot.

How does she dress? Things that make her look attractive. Don't want slutty, or old maid. Easy on the make up most times.

Looks only get you to want to know a woman. Once you you do you may not want to date her any more.

I dont' look for any one feature though for me it is the way she looks as a whole.

Penelope Cruz has a hook in her nose. But for me when I see her in a movie she's pretty. I don't even notice the hook in her nose.

Which only proves the point that the good ones are already taken, leaving...

In my cupboards and pantry, all of the labels face in the same direction outwards, just like they do in the stores. My best friend Chris is just like me (and a really good catch ladies) and my next door neighbor Jim has all the beer bottles in his garage refrigerator lines up like soldiers. Jim's wife Pat says that Jim and I are anal, but I always tell her that we're not anal, we're just particular!

Dutch

The family is always optional, I think I've already expressed my opinion of super-hot women and I'm really not interested in one, the pointy-toed shoes are not to be worn all of the time and you won't always be on your feet when you're wearing them, so I'm sure that we can arrange something!

We're all always looking for the next better offer, so put your BF on notice.

Dutch

Did I mention that I'm a great kisser?

I have a theory that lousy kissers make lousy lovers, with the converse being true also.

booka, you have wayyyyyyy to much time on your hands at work!!!!!

What is it that you do anyways?

Dawn