I went to therapy with a certified sex addition Therapist CSAT
Unlike my last two experiences with therapists, this time everything made sense, I feel I am on good hands.

We talked about co-dependence and I discovered I have more problems than I realized. This is a good thing and a bad thing.

It is bad because I wasn't expecting for me to be emotionally ill. It is good because I am aware of my problem name, it has a name and someone has figured out a recovery path that seems to work in most cases.

I did bring some co-dependent baggage to the relatioship, but it has been under the spell of my h addiction that I really developed this problem in response to all the pain and trauma he brought to my life.

It is scary because I see how I hurt myself, emotionally and even physically and I was, somehow unaware of it.

It is also good that they say that while recovery is not easy, it is simple.

Congrats on finding someone to help you. Try to not guilt yourself. We have tendency to forget ourselves when our spouse is in pain. Remember that progress always comes out of caos.

Your in my prayers:)