No infidelity that I know of, but she is very disconnected emotionally. I just can't get through to her to make her understand how unmet I am. She hears it and is sometimes sympathetic, but she makes no changes. She started being disconnected over a year ago. The signs were there for an EA, but I have no proof. She has a very disconnected feeling of self. She has some major personal issues and has been "finding herself".
I do have a thread on the EN forum. I found this thread somewhere, but can't remember how. I think I was in the divorce section.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2146357#Post2146357There's no attention on me. No doting, affection, kissing or anything like that. There are no plans for the future. She just acts trapped and yearns for experiences that don't involve me and the kids. She wishes she had been an independent woman before we married. She went from college to our married life. She'll stay up until all hours on her stuff or chatting on her message board, but the attention I get is more obligatory than anything else.
So many times I've seen this story and while I can appreciate the angst, it's really not my doing. It just frustrates me to no end that I have built this life with this person and now she acts like she's trapped. This isn't a prison and I'm not her prison guard.
She acted a little stunned recently when it sank in that I'm ready to move on if things don't improve. All I really want is for her to make this marriage a priority. She acts like she's single and feels little to no accountability to her family obligations.
Hang on, checking the laundry...