I am divorced and a buddy of mine also had a wife that cheated on him. She wanted out and divorced him told him that she never loved him and wanted out. Mike told her ok and divorced her. She was having an affair and so she left to be happy. Mike is such a nice guy his ex-wife went off of the deep end and he has tried to help her. She has been in jail and drugs and well you get the picture. When she was married to Mike she made over $100,000 a year and now she is homeless. They are not getting back together but his new ex-girlfriend hates his ex-wife. Mike still will help her because he feels sorry for her.

It sure sucks to be a man when you go to court. I have tried for 2 months to get him to get a restraining order from a woman he was dating. She is a psycho. There is no other word for her and I am not sure what I should do next. I fear for my friend’s life. I don’t know if she would kill him or not but I do know that she would set him up to go to prison. For Rape, Assault or even sexual abuse of her daughter. Take your pick I am pretty sure it would be one of those things if she didn’t kill him.
He did go and try and get the order but the judge denied it. He is not married he broke up with her and wants to be left alone. The judge said there is not enough evidence. This woman is not threatening when you look at her. She is short and petite and she is attractive. You would never believe she is an abusive bitchhh. She looks like the sweetest little thing.

She came over to his house and broke in with her young daughter. He told me she even held her child while she hit him just to make sure he would not protect himself. She later called him and said she would call the police because he scratched her during all of this.

She has threatened to kill his dog, his ex-spouse. She has threatened to kill herself. The list goes on but I am more worried about her framing him for something. I am not listing other things that she has done because I would be here all night. She appears to be mentally ill and when my friend told her to get help she gets into a rage and starts throwing things and or hits him with her hands.

She is trying to destroy Mike’s ex-wife life. It appears that in her thought process she thinks of ways to hurt people as much as she can. I just don’t know what I should do??
I am worried about getting involved and her coming after my children. I honestly think she would if she knows that I am trying to help my buddy. But a bigger issue to me is her daughter. She is watching this abusive behavior and the mom does not care. She has called Mike and told him to say goodbye to her daughter for her because she is going to end her life. Things like this would happen every week.

Has anyone ever come across a person like this? Any ideas on what I should do? I think I should call children’s services and have them check her out but visually she is no threat to anyone. I know she has sent text messages to Mike threatening to kill herself and his dog. He has not saved them. Does anyone know if they can be retrieved? I think that if those texts can be retrieved and could be subpoenaed there would be proof of what she is doing.

Mike has asked me to not get involved since she is not stable. I do fear for him and I worry about her child. I feel I should contact someone or do something but I have never had to deal with a person like this. I do know I would feel horrible if Mike got hurt and I do worry about her daughter. I am asking people for advice. I really would like any advice anyone has out there. I do not believe she is just a talker since I have seen her go after Mike and some other things that she has done against his ex-wife. I have talked to my ex-wife and she does not want me to do anything at all because she does not want her to come after our kids and my XW does worry about my safety.

She does remind me of my mom. My mom was helll on wheels and this woman does remind me of her. And you do not want to be on the other side of that wrath.
Thanks for listening.

When I called our cell phone company during my wife's first affair, I was told that text messages could be released with a subpoena.

I think if your friend contacted a lawyer, he could get the wheels in motion to retrieve those text messages and make a stronger case for the restraining order.

In the meantime, I think he should invest in a cheap video recorder connected to his computer so that he can monitor the interior of his house. Hide a few in the house, and if the woman comes over again, he can get their interactions on tape, and maybe even charge her with breaking and entering.

he should file a police report and a private criminal complaint if the DA will not charge her with burglary (this is breaking into a residence with the intent to commit a crime therein...in this case assault).

He should have an attorney send her a certified letter to end all contact. Changing his phone number and locks will help....and EVERY single time she calls, he is to call the police. EVERY TIME. He should NEVER talk to her again....no texts, no emails...nothing.

If the police are called, they will do something about this. Save all voice-mails and all text messages. If he a SIM card they can be retrieved.

Your friend seems like he brings a bit of this on himself. He should stop having anything to do with nut jobs...including his ex-wife. Some people thrive on drama. When a person genuinely wants it to end, there are means to that end. Honestly though, if he was serious about ending this drama, he would have saved voice-mails and texts.