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Hello, I havent been on here for a real long time. Its been almost 3 years since my husband left me (while 9 mo pregnant) for another woman. He was gone about 4 months, affair lingered on for a few more months until we moved away. Marriage is now OK, we have worked on it alot, both made some changes, still not all it could be.
Neway, I was watchin Gary Neuman on Oprah the other day, anybody watch this??? I could go on and on but heres what I wanted to post. ...He suggested if you are having any doubts pertaining to infedelity that spouse should take a lie detector test. I was thinking this would be great for us becouse it has been a block for me in recovery. I have often wondered if my husband has had more affairs or if there was more to his affair that I know of. So I asked him if you would, and I saw fear sweep across his face. Then he said "I will when we have the money, but I dont think we can afford it right now" and walked away from me.....hmmmm...
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backroads, what normally happens in these cases is that the WS spills his guts before the test.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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backroads, what normally happens in these cases is that the WS spills his guts before the test. well, they spill them to an extent...it is a way to manipulate their partner to get out of taking the exam. ALWAYS follow through with the test. Liars lie...and they will use anything they can to cover their tracks...even letting a certain amount of lies escape their "lie balloon." Trust me...there are more left to tell. Hi Mel.
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Hello, I havent been on here for a real long time. Its been almost 3 years since my husband left me (while 9 mo pregnant) for another woman. He was gone about 4 months, affair lingered on for a few more months until we moved away. Marriage is now OK, we have worked on it alot, both made some changes, still not all it could be.
Neway, I was watchin Gary Neuman on Oprah the other day, anybody watch this??? I could go on and on but heres what I wanted to post. ...He suggested if you are having any doubts pertaining to infedelity that spouse should take a lie detector test. I was thinking this would be great for us becouse it has been a block for me in recovery. I have often wondered if my husband has had more affairs or if there was more to his affair that I know of. So I asked him if you would, and I saw fear sweep across his face. Then he said "I will when we have the money, but I dont think we can afford it right now" and walked away from me.....hmmmm... His response indicates that he is still lying. Tell him...don't ask him...that the test will be taken within the next two weeks. Scrape together the money somehow and finally find peace in KNOWING you are being told the truth.
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backroads, what normally happens in these cases is that the WS spills his guts before the test. well, they spill them to an extent...it is a way to manipulate their partner to get out of taking the exam. Ahhhh, good point! Hi MEDC! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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well, they spill them to an extent...it is a way to manipulate their partner to get out of taking the exam.
ALWAYS follow through with the test. Liars lie...and they will use anything they can to cover their tracks...even letting a certain amount of lies escape their "lie balloon." Trust me...there are more left to tell.
Hi Mel. Agreed, he will let the least damaging, yet believable, lies slip in order to get you to cancel the test. Why waste the money if he has confessed it all right? That will be his attempt at manipulating you. Definitely go through with the test. On a personal note, I would think hard about staying with a man who abandoned you when you were 9 months pregnant. There are certain things that are unforgivable to me and that is one of them. If more lies come tumbling out, just make sure you aren't staying with him due to fear of the unknown.
ex-WW had 2 PAs in first 2 years. Buh-bye.
Divorce finalized: 1/28/09
Now just living and loving again.
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