I am closely following Plan A and I realize that Plan A involves becoming a better person - something I am working on. I can change my behavior to be a kinder, gentler person, which is someone I always wanted to be. But I keep hearing suggestions to go out with friends, go out and have fun on my own, be more interesting, get a life, etc. I have a life. I have a 6 month daughter and I am currently in the first trimester of a new pregnancy. It's all I can do to keep my life running at the moment. I try to have fun at home and have been doing lots of playing with my daughter, the dogs, etc. I've been playing video games with H, teasing him, watching movies with him, etc. And I am trying to get baby sitters and go out on dates but the last thing I want to do is go out on my own or with girlfriends - I'm just too darn tired. Yet I know it's something H always wanted me to do and he always thought it was weird that I never liked to do it much. So should I just suck it up and do it anyway?

I wish I didn't have to do a lot of this. I wish I could just lay in bed and have someone pamper me. Trying to do plan A while working full time, having an infant and suffering through morning sickness is no joke. I'm glad I'm doing it and so far I'm managing it all without dropping any balls so I don't want to go to plan B yet. Plus I don't know how I'd make it in Plan B since at least H helps around the house and a lot with our daughter.

I want to be an attractive amazing spouse. I want to be the more attractive option. But do I have to go out on the town with the girls to do it??

Sorry you find yourself havign to do plan A or B or D at all
However now that life has brought you here there are very few alternatives.
Plan A as I saw it was a chance to re group, re-evaluate and re-focus and be the person you were meant to be.
So often we get "busy" with our lives and "forget" to "take care" of the important things ie ourselves, our mate and our immediate family.
So Plan A maams you make a concious effort to do things that make you happy. If that does not include going out with the girls dont.
Plan A means says yes to the things that really matter and tuning out the rest.
Does it matter that you are nice to your H - yes
Does it matter that you take time out to rest when you are exhausted - Yes
Does it matter that you meet the needs of your H - Yes
Does it mean that you set boundaries like NC for recovery - Yes

Does it mean you have to change what you like - No.
Do have you have to give up more of yourself then you want to -No

Most often people recomend the "me" time with girlfriends cause many women do not take that for themselves and have built up resentment. PLan A is the time to eliminate built up resentment so that you have the "willingness" and "ability" to be the mate you want to be.
As far as dating your H , inlieu of going out may be have the babaysitter take the baby out to a park or for a ride and this way you can come up with relaxing dating ideas at home instead of exhausting yoruself by going out. Take a bath together, order in and just eat by candle light anything thats easy not exausting and still allows you to spend quality time with you H.
I hope for your sake and for the babies you have a speedy and happy recovery

I'm very sorry that you find yourself here and in the situation that you are in. I understand completely how you feel, having to go through this while pregnant is doubly difficult, IMO. Be sure to take care of yourself, drink enough water, eat enough, and get plenty of sleep. Those things will make you start feeling better there. If you don't want to go out with your girlfriends, then don't. Work on the issues within yourself that you want to work on. Our MC said that once you make changes, if you stick with them, within six months they will seem the norm.

Good luck to you.