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Wow its been a long time since I have been here. I see some old names and freinds still here as well.
Just thought its about time to update everyone on my life. I never thought I would be saying this after all I went through but life is good.
Just a short synopsis for now as my time is limited right now.
I have met a wonderful man and he treats me better that I could have ever imagined. We have been together now almost two years.
The kids like him and the grandkids love him.
The exwh married the bimbo and is living a miserable life. He has to clear all moves he makes through her. He can't even speak to me without her freaking out and saying he is cheating on her.
The ex in laws and I are still very close and they have accepted my new love and treat him awesome. They consider him and me both family. The bimbo is not liked by them at all.
There is so much more to say but I am running short on time right now...
To all of you going through this awful thing just remember it will be ok. Its hard but you can and will make it through it.
Happyinokla
Oh yeah for those of you interested my story is somewhere in this site..... It was a long hard one.....
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Hi - Glad you gave an update, and that things are going good for you. I wondered what happened to you, but figured it was a man.
Are you still working in the same place?
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Hi! I don't think I posted much, or at all, to you when you were actively posting here, but I remember following your story, years ago, and I remember how hard your journey was. I'm really happy to hear how well things have turned out, particularly how your former in-laws still treat you and your new boyfriend (husband?) If I recall correctly, your mother-in-law was very, very supportive and helpful during your ordeal, right?
It is great to hear you are doing well! Congratulations on all you have accomplished, and thanks for coming back to update everyone!
Me: 41, INFP
Her: 46, ESFJ
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Hey C...good to hear from you. Thanks for the update.
Give our regards to D.
Don't be a stranger.
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FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Unfortunately the search feature doesn't work with this new fandangled site but I was able to find your first post if anyone wants to read. Here's the link to your first post Glad to hear you're doing well!
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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So good to know that you are HAPPY!! 
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Wow so nice to see some old friends here still.... Believer and Mr. W great to hear from you....
Life is good and I never would have believed it 3 years ago. You all brought me through a rough time. I have never forgotten any of you and how you supported me.
I hope that my story and the great ending I have had will help someone else going through this.
I try not to think of all the pain anymore and am doing pretty good at it....
I do feel sorry for the ex and the mess he made of his life. But he asked for it and her ,sorry about his bad luck. lol
He has told me his marriage to her is on the rocks, like i care..
Oh well ya lay down with dogs and ya get fleas.
The man I am with now is a big change from the ex. He cooks and does nice things for me I am not used to.
Yes the ex in laws are awesome still to me. They have supported me through it all and still do. My ex mother in law is not doing well she has cancer and does not have much time left. I spend as much time with her as I can when I am not working. I still am working at CVS and things there are good.
DD is now married and has a 5 month old little girl. She is precious. Her hubby on the other hand is a control freak and I see its not good, but she won't listen and does not see the problem. I guess its something she will have to learn on her own.
I have read some posts from others here and it breaks my heart to see what they are going through. But I know they will all make it through this one way or another no matter how it turns out.
Again great to hear from everyone....
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Mimi,
So glad to know you are still here and helping everyone.... You were one of the biggest supports I had and I thank you....
Hope everything for you is good......
I have missed everyone....
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Well lookie here! 
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Oh C! It's so wonderful to hear from you!!! Glad to hear you are now "happyinokla" - much better name for such a sweet lady! And a grandma to boot? Wow! Congratulations!  Hey, maybe you could get your dd and sil turned on to following the MB concepts...Makes for a great marriage when both partners are on board with the program. Maybe the home study course for a Christmas present??? Hope to see you around posting...You are a success story, and those make for much hope and great inspiration here! Don't be a stranger!  Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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HappyinOkla! What a wonderful surprise to see you here. I will never forget the deep despair you felt when you arrived on our doorstep. And look how far you have come! There is life after disaster, huh?  {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{[[HIO}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Mrs. W ,
good to hear from you....
as far as DD and her hubby go not sure what will work, she tried geting counseling with our pastor and he would have nothing to do with it.
He says he is following the bible and he is the man. He has a lot of growing up to do. When they marry so young and have their mommy constantly putting stuff in their head you can't do much for them...
Of course he picks and chooses from the bible what suits his mood at the time and does not read the whole concept of the verse just what suits him.
I am at a stand still with it all right now.
And yes I do feel like a sucess story, I may not have saved my marriage but I found something so much better... ME!!!!! And a man who is a man..... How wonderful is that !!!!!!
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{{{{{Mel}}}}}
Good to see ya still here......
And doing good things for others, I have missed you all
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Hey girl!!! Very nice to see you here! I have often thought about you and wondered how you were. I am so happy for you!!! You are a true success story for MB, because you recovered yourself! So very glad to hear that you have been blessed with a good H that treats you as well as you have deserved for so long!!! And so nice that everyone in your family loves him as well. So sorry to hear about your MIL. My prayers are with her. Do try to spend some quality time with her, you won't regret it. Take care, hope to hear more from you soon. It would be nice if you could help some people here. I am much too timid these days. LOL. Love in Christ, Miss M 
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You are a true success story for MB, because you recovered yourself! Hello Happy, Glad to hear your success story, thanks for sharing. Would you be willing to cut/paste your post to the Success Story thread linked to my sig line. (Or is it OK with you if I do?) Thanks, Ace P.S. Hi Miss M!
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You sound great !!  Delighted to hear it, flower. May God continue to heap blessings upon you ! As for your Ex, well, he volunteered for that mess. That's what WS who do not come home all do. No sympathy from me.
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Hey There C!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well I held your hand for a while there. I'm so pleased you have found happiness. I regard you as a success too!
God Bless.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
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Hi HIO!
I am so glad to see your update, I have wondered about you often!
Congrats on the beginning of the next wonderful phase of your life!
Me-41 BS (FWS) DH-41 WS (FBS) 2DD's- 10 and 12 Married 15 years Separated for 2 years after my A Reconciled for 1 year before his A D-day for his A 8/23/05 WH moved out 9/16/05 Divorce final 1/23/07 Affair ended or month or so later My Story
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Wow its great to see all of you, Bob, Big , Jean and Ms. M .... You all have no idea how much all of you helped me through it all... I could not have asked for better friends. I plan on being here to help when I can if nothing more than encouragment for others that they can and will survive. Ace you can link my sucess so people can see it does happen. again thanks for the warm welcome back.... happyinokla
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I'm so glad you checked in!
I'm happy that you are "Happy!"
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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