My husband and I have gone through so much and I thought he had changed. apparently he hasn't.
He's in the Army and the two times he was unfaithful were when he was away from me at schools (May 05 and Oct 06).
I found out he had cheated on me 2.5 yrs ago and we've been recovering. We separated in Nov 06 after I found out about the second incident.
He's made a lot of changes, including rededicating his life to Jesus, being baptized, wanting us to go to church, treating me better, not getting mad at me but wanting to work through things, etc.
He left for a school 3 weeks ago and has 4 more weeks there. This is the same place he was when he cheated on me the first time.
He had promised me he wasn't going to drink, bc I don't like him drinking and I think he makes bad choices when he drinks. I also have very strict standards when it comes to females, as in I don't want him talking to females, being friendly with females, etc. He knows all this and said he agreed and wouldn't be friendly with females bc that opens the door to temptation.
So I got a 3 minute voicemail the other day where he didn't realize he had called me and he was talking with a female and laughing and what not. So I confronted him and he admitted this female had texted him so he went to her room and invited her to his room and they sat and talked for an hour in his room with the door closed. He also admitted he'd been drinking every single day since he left and he swears nothing happened between him and this female.
I think the voicemail was divine intervention--God sent it to me to protect me from being hurt again.
Husband swears he's giving up alcohol and he told several of his guy friends to literally punch him if they see him with a beer. He's trying to blame all his bad choices on drinking--but I don't buy it.
I think he obviously has a problem with lying as well. I don't believe anything he says. How could I?
I just don't know where to go from here. He crossed the line--AGAIN. When does it ever stop? I thought he had really changed.
Is this a sign that I'm married to a serial cheater and there's no hope?
I gave him a list of things I expect of him such as go to church, get an accountability partner, read Bible and pray everyday--and he wholeheartedly agreed and seemed really repentant.
I'm so confused and lost. I've been really growing in my relationship with Jesus since last January. I do my quiet time everyday and I was really trusting God to take care of me and heal my marriage. Then this happens. What is God telling me by sending me this voicemail? To get away from this man who continues to hurt me or just to continue to trust that God is watching and won't let me be in the dark? I don't know!!! I want to know what I'm supposed to do, how I'm supposed to act, what to think about the future....help please.
