I dont like discussing my situation verry much. The advice I get is always extreamly negative. (Leave her, divorce her, time for plan-D) I am not there yet.
So I will keep this rather vauge.
I have been doing a very good plan-A since my wife returned to me 3 months ago. It was going well, still fogy but there where patches of clear. I came home last wednesday to find a "dear John letter" stating her heart aches for OM and that she had gone back to him.
It had all the typical fog babble.
"I love you but I'm not in love with you"
"You have done nothing wrong"
"you will be better off without me"
"I cant be with you knowing how much I have hurt you"
"I know I am probably making a mistake"
"You are the better man and the better choice"
etc, etc.
(I'm thinking of posting it and having schoolbus analyze it)I imidiatly went to plan-B, informed my lawyer of what was happening,
(asked for advice on joint property) and re-exposed to her entire family letting them read the letter she left me.
Her mother started crying and told me that she knew it was wrong, but had prayed that OM would die. Her sisters and freinds just shook there heads and made a few comments about her intelegence. Her dad after reading it just told me "She will be back if you still want her".
Wich brings us to this.
Do you mean informing his parents that she is still married?
Yes, sure.
They know she is married, knew it the whole time, including the 2 months she lived with them. They dont know me and I am sure they have been told that I am the devil re-incarnated.
But I called them wednesday night and spoke to OM's mom. I explained who I was and asked if my wife was there, She said yes. I confirmed if she understood that my WW was married, and then asked where she thought my WW had been for the last 3-months. She, her husband, and OM had been told by WW that she was living with her sister. I told her that was not true, she had been with me.
She did not belive me.
(I had been told by WW that they had been informad of the truth. This was a lie, of course)Thursday I got busy on a little package for OM's parents. It has several pictures of us togther after she left OM and there house.
(a personel change in her will unmistakably date them as after her leaving OM) A copy of our apartment rental agreement (personel info blotted out) that was signed after her leaving OM. A copy of a card she gave me that mentions her affair and a copy of the "Deer John" letter she left me. I also wrote a very polite note to OM,s parents explaining in detail where she has been, including dates and times of events that I should not know about unless we where together.
By Friday afternoon my WW was sending me text messages wanting to come home. Typical stuff, I love you, I screwed up, It took this for me to realize it, yada, yada, yada. After using her sister as a 3rd party contact, she agreed to "Do anything it takes" (we all know thats probably a crok)
I never got to mail the letter.
Due to compond persional family tragedies, family and personal health problems, and more responsibilitys and problems than you can shake a stick at, WW and I have had almost "0" time to talk. But unless somthing else goes horrably wrong, we should, finnally get to tonight.
Soo..... Should I send the letter?
Or try and get WW to wright a NC/exposure letter to OM's parents as well as OM.
(or both)