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has anyone every done this....
#2152658 11/03/08 02:28 PM
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Have FWH call OW and tell them to tell the truth to the BS about what happened and then put the BS on.
I feel like I need him to do that so I can hear what she has to say. (f?)WH lead her on to believe that he was nearly to the point of divorce and that he could have seen being in a relationship with her. Which isn't true as (f)WH don't like thick girls, neighter her personality.
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YOU need to arrange a meeting between OWH and yourself and let your H tell him what happened so his WW can't deny it.

Your husband might get a good whoopin, but at least you will get to watch.

I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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OW is single, so there is no one to contact.

I was wondering if to have him call instead of me, with me on the other line and ask the few questions he can't fully remember. There is mainly two or three. I mean he gaves me an answer with how much he thinks but I want to know.

After hopefully his finally D-day and Confession-Day he called her infront of me and told her he is doing recovery with his wife and not to contact him by phone, email, nothing. But I just want him to ask about 2-3 questions.

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Forget asking the OW, she will probably say whatever she thinks will bother you the most.

If you want answers to questions that your H can't seem to remember then have him take a lie detector test and find out if he really can't remember or if he just doesn't want to tell you.


BW 38 (me)
FWH 42
Married 7 years
DD 6
SD 15
11-2006 H said he wanted a divorce and walked out
3-2007 I told H I wanted him back
3-2007 to 4-2007 D-day's
4-2007 H moved back in for good
Today-In recovery, but a long way to recovered
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Originally Posted by ANewBeginning
...he called her infront of me and told her he is doing recovery with his wife and not to contact him by phone, email, nothing. But I just want him to ask about 2-3 questions.

NC means no contact.
I wouldn't call her for the answer to two or three questions.
What makes you think she'd tell the truth?
Leave her in your dust and don't look back.

If you think your H is lying to you, then a polygraph is a good idea.

Or maybe you're fixating on details that really aren't important to your H and he really doesn't remember. If you're asking how many times, or a list of positions, or stuff like that - he really may not know.

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True, your right. The questions where how many times, he did tell me about 10 and all where they took place (He finally confessed everything this weekend at first he said 5) and if they saw each other after we came back from our vacation, but I got the answer to that so I really don't need anything else. I guess I am one of those need to know every detail. And I already asked about positions also and that answer hasn't changed, only the number of times.

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