You wrote:


I am wondering - do you think that the BS ever changes ?

Loaded question?

Don’t know, actually.

Seems to me the average BS has very little to change, adultery-bentwise.

Perhaps some modifications to the otherwise learned techniques for satiating particular-instance WS insatiable EN’s. Learn better how to give the WS what they need/want to keep the peace, raise the children, and maintain general marital stability for a few years longer, more or less.

But nothing fundamental to change in BS personality, I think.

Now, if BS is also an abuser, a child rapist and a bank robber, well…pickle of a similar squirt. They can’t fundamentally change their personalities either, can they. Do you trust convicted child molesters near children? Ever? Experts now say they cannot change their spots either. They, like WS, can hold their urges in check for awhile here and there. About all they will admit. Hence all the new civil commitment procedures for rapists and molesters and their ilk. It is finally understood they cannot change. They are wired, like WS, to succumb.

BTW, read again the thread my quote is from. QED?


PS: Question for you in Recovery.