My husband moved back in after being seperated for two months. Two weeks prior he had been coming over telling me he wanted to work things out, but he wasn't ready to move back in yet. So I recorded a conversation with him and the OW b/c I wasn't sure if he was still talking to her. In this conversation I overheard a trip they were planning together for the coming weekend. I confronted him and told him he had to choose her or me, b/c I wasn't going to share him anymore. He told me he had to go away for the weekend to end things with her. I pleaded w/ him to end it over the phone or let me go with him. He insisted he go and do it alone.
He had to go alone so that he could have sex with her.
I told him if he went not to come back. Well, I ended up letting him come home the following Monday.
So he knows he can spend the weekend with his girlfriend with no consequences.
So the first week he was home he was completely about me as far as communicating, showing affection, sex, etc.
Because he feels guilty.
And why are you having sex with this man? Aren’t you worried about getting a STD?
Saturday I found an email she sent him about how there was a void in her life yada yada yada. Anyway I confronted him, and he said he didn't reply to it, but I got upset b/c he didn't tell me. I have no idea if he replied or not.
I am sure he replied and told her that he loves her. And that he can fill the void in her life.
This week he has been distant and quiet. I gave him the EN's survey to complete and he said he didn't feel like doing it. I also gave him the book How to Survive an Affair to read and he still hasn't picked it up. I feel like I am the only one who is trying to save the marriage.
Why should he read it? He has a wife and a he has a mistress. Sounds like he is happy with the situation.
Now I am paranoid that he is talking to her again.
Of course he is talking to her again. He never stopped talking to her. Has he told you when they plan to meet again for sex? Because I am sure it is planned.
I'm just frustrated and feel like giving up. Can anyone tell me if it is going to get better?
No, it won’t get better as long as you allow him to cheat with no consequences.
*hugs* I do feel for you. And I am great at denial myself. But as an outsider, it is obvious to me that he is still cheating.