Hello,

I am new here and just wanted to introduce myself.

I am mid 20s and engaged to my boyfriend of about 20 months.

We are getting married in the early part of next year.

I am very happy and excited to be marrying him. I love him very much and feel really lucky to have his love and support in the way I do.

I do feel a bit anxious when I think about the "rest of our lives" because it seems that so much can change and/or go wrong.

My fiance and I do have one issue. We were both virgins when we met and it has taken both of us a lot of time to finally have sex. It hasnt been easy for either of us (for different reasons) and that aspect of our relationship will take a long time to become completely smooth I think!

We also dont live together yet so our lives will change quite significantly after we tie the knot. I'm looking forward to it though. I expect it to involve challenges but I do also expect and hope that it will be really rewarding.

x LaFire

I understand the first time deal and how hard it can be, but before you two start building on sex, try to keep communications about it all open. Being able to "talk about it" without doing it can really be a bonus. Once you start having sex and the "good feelings" that come with it, it's hard to keep a clear, level sight as to what is really going on.

If you can't talk about it all now, it won't be any easier once you "tie the knot". Learn to share in each other's feelings and thoughts about everything FIRST. DON'T RUSH IT!! The more you can learn about each other (even if you THINK you KNOW each other) the better life will go for the two of you.

And learning to follow as many of Dr. H's concepts as possible NOW will just put you both into the habit of doing the same thing later in the relationsip and make for a more fulfilling marriage.

Hello!

The good news is I don't ever feel uncomfortable or concerned about talking to him about anything and always do (though of course I pick my moments!)

There has been a lot of talking about sex and sexual stuff up till now and hopefully there always will be.

Perhaps before you continue with your marital plans, you should be honest with your fiance and tell him of your ongoing emotional affair with a married man.

You say this but you havent been telling him all. If its that easy to talk to him tell him of the phone calls you rec.

I'm not having an emotional affair with a married man. ****EDIT****

What is an Affair - Full Article by Dr Harley