Ok,this could go under wayward gibberish, exposure, or plain ol' threats.

New thread cause this is too good to pass up. My earlier posts give my story.
So, I have a WAW and her and the OM are deep in a romantic A, and he is a LEO.
Well, I just got a phone call from someone from the Deptartment explaining that it is a misdemeanor to "check up" on someone active in law enforcement. I asked if this was a threat and the reply was, "no threat just be careful".

I know for a fact that exposure can and will work....maybe OM is getting nervous?

The next call was from my WAW explaining that she will be glad to answer any questions that I may have and even offered to let me and the OM meet.
Bad LB, my reply..."Why would I want to meet with a man that is sleeping with my wife? Do you think I could change his mind?"

Well...maybe I can....advice??

Broad exposure and ignore the stupid threat.

There is NO such law.

Hmmm....What kind of LEO? It always looks bad on LEOs when they are supposed to be serving, protecting, etc. and they are not upstanding citizens. Is he married?

There is no such law, but there are laws against adultery in many states (though not enforced). Maybe you can get proof (like pics) and turn it over to the local paper (talk about exposure) anonymously. Headline "Local LEO is adulterer". My advice is definite exposure.

The dept he works for is very aware of the sitch. Most likely that is where the "heat" (ha ha) is coming from.
He is not married (D in 06 wife number 2). His family absolutly does not care about him or who or what he does. Fine people they are....could not even look me in the eye.

But...I've been warned....no worries...would do it again and again!!

send a certified letter to the chief of police and the mayor of your town. It would not hurt to copy your state representatives and even the governors office. You would be surprised how that will get the attention of the local authorities.

None whatsoever.

They are blowing smoke up yer kilt.

Was this anonymous? Document and re-expose. You have been threatened.

If you have the stomach for it, I'd file a complaint with his Department that his "friends" are threatening you and call up Internal Affairs.

Report this threat to the Governors office and the State Attorney Generals's ofice that you are recieving harrashment/ threatening calls from a LEO.

Prosecutor can get phone records to find out who made that call.

Ohhhhhhhhhhh ! Good one!

You know, I like that, too.

I never did expose x's ea. I really wish I had. But, that was so many years ago. Too bad I didn't know.

I guess I would have asked for a citation in the law. What laws specifically would one be violating?

In reality, I suspect that in public places, where there is no expectation of privacy, you are free to watch, take notes, etc.

How else would the police investigate other officers under an internal affairs department?

You probably got a call from the OM, and not just another officer.

I think you could turn this around and say that the OM is making threats, and you've logged the call and are considering your legal options regarding stalking, threats, etc.

I doubt it was another officer, I'd wager it was the OM himself.
See above, it's him trying to intimidate.

Take notes, keep them in a safe place and know the law. Also, I'd not speed, make sure my headlights, taillights, etc are working, use my signals, not roll any stops, etc.

I think I'd keep a digital recorder with me, just in-case there are any "confrontations."

You may also go to the phone co and get a log of your incoming calls. They will research harassing phone calls. I doubt they care that the call originated from an LEO.

You can find out who is harassing you, right down to a number.

You wanna be very damn careful, that's what. VERY damn careful!!

When the Texas Ranger and his ---hole buddies-good ol' boys-beat the h*ll out of my uncle and almost killed him after they took him to the river...

They harassed my grandparents and my uncle--their friends driving by at all hours, shining spotlights and flashlights into the windows, catcalling, phone threats, it was awful. All over a woman, too, just because my uncle danced with her and that cop happened to like her (or whatever.)

My grandparents never got over that and were always fearful for us because they were worried about that cop's cronies seeking revenge after he was convicted and lost his Ranger status. My grandma is fearful now at night, still.

So, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!!!! BE CAREFUL!!! Not all cops are bad but you just never know what might happen and when you might hit a nest of evil that will do you harm.

Charlotte

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I'd just divorce the wife and let the wife find out what it's like to live with a man married to his job.

The day before yesterday, TheRoad told you on another thread to go to Plan B. I concur and recommend going completely dark.

A taste of life without you in it, after your Plan A, might just be the jolt she needs. It will surely protect you from the effects of her continued cake-eating.

Take care of yourself.

Dump the WW, keep the kids.

You couldn't be more wrong. Most cops wouldn't tolerate this stuff for a minute. The percentage of "dirty" cops is no higher than any other profession.

Nice smear though.

Thanks to all for the advice

Seven weeks ago, I came here a broken man. I am somewhat intelligent, run a large business, and have a wonderful family.
I studied hard, listened hard, and prayed hard.
Most advice was dead on...some was not. Some I did and some I could not do.

Exposure: Did all I could and am not ashamed to tell anyone who asks, "how's your wife"? Most wish they didn't ask, because I hold nothing back.

Plan A: Started before MB. Had no idea what I was doing, but did it. Did some things good and some things wrong. But, I did something. On that note: exercise and prayer combined with housework...will change your situation from hopeless to having a purpose. I get mad with myself when I miss my 10 mile daily bike ride.....DO SOMETHING!!

Carrot and Stick: Applied both to my situation. Took away checkbook, made her responsible for HER bills, and NEVER let up on the fact that her actions have caused hurt throughout our family especially ME! It's OK to say that without negative LB's.
Meanwhile, showing my wife the husband she has loved for many, many years. Filling any EN possible, no LB's, no DJ's, etc.

For all my work, she remains living with her Grandmother and continues her A.

This is where I will lose some of you. Some early on, got frustrated with me, some gave hurtful advice, some made fun of my situation...BUT some of you made me realize that if I stick to the plan(s)....MAYBE the fog will lift and she will realize that I am the person she loves the most. I am not stupid, I know that it would take a tremendous amount of effort to fully recover from this A.

I AM WILLING...not because I am weak, but because I LOVE MY WIFE and as her husband I have an obligation to her because God requires me to do all I can to save her life.

I continue on plan A day by day...my goal was to try 3 months. I have until 12/15. I write everything in my journal, I keep great records and I do record some conversations, all emails, and meetings.

So...my inspiration comes from my God, my children, and the lucky ones of you here that have made it to the recovery stages. Remember when you were in my shoes? Did you ever give up? Looking back....was it worth it? Give me the chance to expierence the joys and pitfalls you are expierencing because one of you LOVED and LOVES like I do.

You are showing real strength. Just make sure you don't drain every bit of it as she eats cake. Good you set a deadline. If you have to go to Plan B on 12/15, she'll get a taste of what the holidays will be like without her family...

God bless.

Your wife will come out of the fog when the affair ends. I would continue exposing higher up the chain at the police department.