For those of you that have followed my posts, thank you for all your help and encouragement.

I had my meeting yesterday with the OM's boss. (Boss is the Sheriff in our county). He promised swift and decisive action. Was not happy at all with the situation and the threats to me.

So.....I have walked through the fires of He!! already.....my WAW is going to unleash a verbal assualt on me and will pledge her hatred forever.....how do I respond?

Her: I hate you! Look what you've done now.

You: I love you. I will do everything in my power to save our marriage and family.

Her: I'll never love you again.

You: I love you. I will do everything in my power to save our marriage and family.

Her: I was going to try again but now you've blown it.

You: I love you. I will do everything in my power to save our marriage and family.

"Would you like a potato chip, dear?"

Mel....you make me laugh...that was the BEST mental picture I've had in a long while.

Seriously, you have been an inspiration to me. I have read and re-read all of your advice to me. For the others here....do not just listen to the advice.....DO SOMETHING!!!

Thanks....Mel and others...you know who you are!

Good Job, you are on your way to better times. Don't pay much attention to what she says, just be nice and tell her you want to save your marriage. Princessmeggy has perfect advice. This was all her doing, all you did was inform the proper authorities (ha, literally). She has to live with the consequences of her actions.

Hurt...thanks and by the way I HATE your D-Day!!!!

Guess we have something else in common.

You've gotten perfect advice from Mel and the Princess already.

The only thing I'll add is if you can, instead of fearing her wrath, try to celebrate it.

What I mean is, instead of letting your inner dialogue say "Oh, now I've blown it now, she said she'll see a lawyer. She said it's over. She said she was going to work on the marriage but now I've blown it. I should never have listened to MB, now I'm in deep kimchee..." you can make your inner dialogue more like this: "Wow, she is REALLY ticked off, this is GREAT! This exposure thing has done more to break the fantasy than I could have ever imagined. Wow, she's acting a lot like a two year old that can't have ice cream because they wouldn't eat veggies. That's kind of interesting to see on a grown woman. Man, I'm glad I did this, this is definitely going to bring about change. This is awesome."

Then get her a potato chip while proclaiming your love for her and your dedication to the marriage

What do you think of my suggestion to Plan B before Thanksgiving? If you can get all the kids on board with you, and you all take a trip somewhere and leave her with OM, it will really drive home what she's doing. At that point, she may not be willing to chance that she might get the same treatment on Christmas.

Cat,

Yes, excellent advice. Here is the plan at this point...best I could do. ALL the older children are coming to my house and WE are all cooking Thanksgiving together.

I explained to WAW that I wanted our 12 yo to spend the day with me and she agreed....then I asked what her plans were, and she said going to Mom's as always....then I called all the other kids and we all agreed to spend the day together and cook. They loved the idea!! OOPS...they will not be going to grandma's either...oh well, I did not have a vote in the decision to leave me or the kids.

Plan B begins....a few weeks earlier than planned....but I NEED to for me!!