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I have taken my ENs to my wife over and over again for over a year now. If you're unfamiliar with my story, in a nutshell, she's withdrawn from the marriage and blames it on a combination of depression and a midlife crisis.
I can't get a hug. I can't get a kiss. I can't get a question about how I'm doing. I can't get anything. Find any checklist about emotional intimacy in a marriage and the things that are important and leave all but sex blank.
I don't want to divorce my wife, but her emotional stonewalling has brought me to the brink over and over again.
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What ever happened regarding her mental condition? Is she taking meds for it? Therapy? Couples therapy? Why not?
Also, in all your posts, I never remember you doing any of the things we suggested you do. You just say, 'oh, if she doesn't want me, there's nothing I can do about it.'
Are you willing now to consider them? Like setting a boundary and informing her of it and being willing to act to preserve that boundary?
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cat, yar, I'm morbidly curious.
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My question is' when to give up?'. I assume people here have some experience.
While I haven't reported back results, I have tried many, many things and there has been no change in her. I'm early 40s staring at what time I have left and have no reason to believe that I can be happy with her ever. I'm in one of those fish or cut bait moments about my future.
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Then I guess when to give up would be when you start looking at her and having no feeling or bad feelings. Anyone else?
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