At first my husband and I were living like roomates after 11 years together. Just happened he wanted to moved out and he started to go out with another girl. I wait until I could no more I told him I knew. Later he left to his moms house. After a week the hurricane can so I had to move to her mom's for two weeks in that time he express that he want to come home. By the time I came back to my house he change his mind. later He watch a movie FIREPROOF wich is the reflexion of what me and him are going thru. He cam home after 3 weeks. At first he did not feel unconfortable, but now our relashionship is better. I just found out that he still talking to the other girl and I told him and he said he will stop it. WE give each other another month to see if things work out. Today we just had another talk and he told me he will wait for her to call him and he will stop the talking. What I planned to do is try to get along and see if we can make it last on the meanwhile I will let him think for himself to see if he stops talking to the other girl. I don't know what else to do......

Welcome. See if he will agree to writing her a no contact letter. It should say that he loves you, the affair was a mistake, and he wants to work on his marriage, and wants no contact with her for any reason ever again. Then you read it and send it to her.

If he refuses, which he probably will, we can still help you.

well I found a letter a mont ago that The other girl wrote to my husband. It says that she new that he wants to come bcl with me and she will not be on thw way of that. But she stiil call him

Ask him to write a no contact letter. You cannot trust the other woman.

i just found out yesterday that he told her that he loves her and they have seen each other. My husband and I talk this morning and I told him I knew what is going on. he thinks that he should leave the house he say he will think about what to do when I come from work. I told them that the first time he came back he should stop the conversation he had with her; he said he try but it was essay for me to call her back. If he ask me for another chance eshould I give it to him?????

ONLY if he writes a letter to her that YOU send, and says to leave him alone.

And then tells you where he is all the time so you don't have to worry about them meeting again.

Don't take him back until you are sure that he is committed to NC.

so I kick him out of the house or I give him an alternative

As I was reading I think I started plan A Back on October. he stop talking to her for 2 weeks and this last 3 days we are talking about his doing it againg. Maybe I am ready for plan B???