Hon, he is still wayward in his mentality. Can you ask him to leave and on his way out give a plan B letter then go completely dark? It may be the only for him to see what life without you will be like.

So sorry you are going through this. Has he actually had a date with any of these online women? Or is he just talking to them?

Have you asked him if he wants to stay in the marriage and possibly go to counseling? Or Are you just keeping a low profile for now?

50 miles isn't that far away. How old is your daughter? If she's young enough, she'll adjust if you wanted to move closer to your family.

I don't know what's wrong with these men........they do terrible things and think they can just waltz in and out of the house likes it's a hotel. As long as we keep our mouths shut, they will never change their attitude or actions.

I agree that you should go to plan B. Maybe wake him up a bit?

My fantasy is that H comes home from work to find me and the kids, and everything in the house completely gone!

Now that's something that might shock them into reality!

Yeah it's pretty sickening. And yes I do have evidence that he went on an all day outing with some woman. In fact they went to an amusement park and took pictures and everything looking like a happily exclusive couple. I confronted him and of course the affair bit the dust by the time I found out about it. At this point I don't even know how many women he has been with. It is pretty scary to know now that I've been living with a complete stranger. Even scary to have to come to the reality that I don't know if he used protection.

I hadn't even gotten over the child good, now all this other stuff is coming to light. I think he needs professional help. Sex addiction, he smokes pot, watches porn. It is just a mess. He is like the Black Charlie Sheen

This show is pretty much over.

When you put it that way, I agree. Protect your child and your marital assets. Other than that I wouldn't put any more effort into this M.

I feel so bad for what you are going through. I have to agree with faithful, you should not put any more effort into the marriage.

I didn't realize the magnitude of the things he has been doing and putting you through. The pot, porn etc. Can't be a good environment for your daughter.

I know it's hard to leave, or ask him to leave. Sometimes we get so used to all the negative behavior, it seems normal to us.

If you leave him, you will still be sad and probably miss him, because that's all you have known for so long.

I really think you should end the marriage, as painful as it may be. One affair or indiscretion can be forgiven (for some people)

You can get through it if you're both committed to it. But he sounds like some kind of single player, playing the field, with many woman.

Please, take yourself and your daughter out of this situation immediately. Go to your mother's or someplace else that you feel safe and comfortable. With the help of people who care about you, put a plan into motion to either be on your own somewhere, or try to get him out of the house.

As hard as it seems right now, you will adjust and start to heal.

I am speaking from experience, H and I were separated for 5 months (this is not when he got OW pregnant)and you know what? I was perfectly fine. At first I was upset, but then I realized all my stress was tied up with him. With him gone, I was more relaxed and in a better moood and so were my kids.

Good news we are started counseling, and he started NA last week.

Not so good news, the OW is starting to show her true colors. She is constantly asking for favors, text messaging in the middle of the night, calling giving him her sob story about her life, just a bunch of dumb stuff.

Now the plus is that he is telling me everything even the stuff she is saying that I probably shouldn' hear, and letting see the text messages. I am so glad that he isn't hiding it from me.

He expressed this morning that maybe having NC with the OC for a while, might be the only way to deal with this situation at this point because he feels she is about to get outta hand.

Havne't been in this before but I'm thinking she is about to try anything to get him back, and when I say get him back I mean ruin him.