I doubt if anyone will read this and that's OK. The only reason I'm writing it is as a form of therapy.

My experience started about 3 years ago. My soon to be exwife had worked at her company for 22 years and the agency had recently gotten a new General Manager who she reported to as his Executive Assistant & Business Manager. After he had been there about 3 months she started going out with him and another man who came to the agency with him for drinks. At first this only happened on Fridays and she usually got home close to her normal time but by late Oct. there were an few times when she would call and tell me she would be home by 7:00 but not get home until 11:00 and each time she never called to say she would be late. After the third time of this I put my foot down and explained to her that she would never put up with my treating her that way and I wasn't going to put up with it either. She said she understood and did stop this stuff but then other things happened. A few months later I noticed my wife had replaced all of her old underwear with new sexy stuff. Here she had always been one who wore underwear until it fell apart but no longer. When I asked her why all new stuff she said that KC (her boss) and the other agent always made fun of women with panty lines and so she was trying to find some that wouldn't show lines so they wouldn't make fun of her. Of course I asked her 1, why she cared what they did & 2, wasn't she offended by their making fun of other women in front of her? Her reply was they were just joking and she didn't care but didn't want to be the butt of their jokes (no pun intended).

This was in late 2005 and it also coincided with the start of overnight business trips with her boss. While I was alittle uneasy with the trips, especially when she would never answer her phone if I called and then would call me back a few minutes later from outside where ever the were.

It was also during this time that I noticed many times when I entered a room where she was that she would abruptly put her phone away and she was also texting alot. Of course this was also when she started locking her phone....

One night I was looking for a lighter in her purse and discovered an unopen bottle of warming oil. As buying something like this was totally out of character for her I was very confused. I knew she was going on an overnight trip with the OM the following morning so I didn't say a word. Two days later, when she got back, I looked in the purse. Needless to say the Oil was gone! When I faced her with it she, of course, gave me a story about buying it for us and forgetting it was in her purse until she went to pay for a business dinner. When she saw it there she immeadiatly went to the ladies room and threw it away before OM saw it!

It was also about this time the two of them joined a "Study Group" of fellow General Agents & their Business Managers. As part of the study group they would travel out of state every quarter for 3 nights. Locations included Gold Coast of FL, Atlanta, Vegas & New York. Of course they still had their regular overnight trips to Louisville & Charleston about every other week. My favorite was the time they went to NY, NY for a seminar. It was supposed to start on Sunday night and be over late Wednesday. It was also to be held at the Airport Marriott and she doubted they would even have a chance to got downtown. By this point I didn't believe anything she told me so I was checking her purse & briefcase on a regular basis. It was also about this time that the Company bought her a new cell phone because she had to have a secure phone since she had confidental information on it.... About a month after they got back I was going through her case and found a Marriott bill for the Downtown Marriott Marquis in Manhatton. They checked in Sunday morning (1 hour after she texed me to say landed) had room service that night then checked out a 11:20 am on Monday. I also found a handout from the seminar that said it started on Tuesday morning. The receipt was for only 1 room and when I asked about it she gave me some BS story about another GA was there and she used his room while he slept in KC's room.

TO BE CONTINUED....