Neak,
LOLOLOLOLOL Ok Toe Nails, I decided just for you to stop at the cuticle just for you! Man your good,it's frightening!

Well made it through yesterday with no crying a full complete day 1 of Plan B. Feeling ok this morning, so far, LOL.

Today going to keep self busy. Going to wash my truck, vacuum the pool, clean the garage, possibly go to the gym and read. I think I might even go lay out and get tan as it's hot here in Southern California right now.

And going to try my best to not think about H........

You're more likely to look like a Dalmation if there's any ash blowing around in the air and settling on you. Or you might end up like some of those people in Pompei. :MrEEk:

Good job. Stay busy. That is what helped me the most. Then when I started obsessing about WH, I made myself think about what kind of curtains to hang in the bedroom. It worked.

I did a whole bunch of organizing, painting, and changing things in my home. It felt GREAT.

Most people go to the gym to work out, but whatever floats your boat.

Oh yeah forgot about da fires! Well its about 30 minutes from me and the wind is blowing most of the smoke the opposite direction so I don't have too much smoke, thank God. The fires last month we had a lot of smoke but not this time. Who knows maybe its a self tanner day.

LOL, Hillarious! I mean go to the gym and when I come home read! Not sure I can handle a dumbbell in one hand and a book in the other. Prob drop it on my head!

Man, I'm thinking I need to go back ta gramma schoo cuz my writen is sucky today. I think all that Plan B delivery burned up lots of my brain cellz!

I've got no words, just hugs.

(((((((((T2)))))))))))

Just so you know, I totally sucked at PB.

Like, hoovered big time.

I am in awe of you.

Ah. And I tried to read on the treadmill once.

Pert near killed myself.

Kids thought it was AWE-SOME!

("do it again, ma!")

Turkeys!

What do ya mean hoovered?

Awe thanks for the support.

As in sucked................

Mas suckage, vacuum of space sucked...sucked the chrome off a bumper sucked...

That's hoovered.

Ohhhhhhhh! Sorry ya sucked! Want some suckers, lollipops or a straw or something? I think if you had used a vacuum you might have sucked a lot better. LOLOLOLOL

Well your recovered so I guess it didn't matter in the end, eh?

No worries I'm one of those determined, muscle through things kinda weirdos so I think my Plan B will go as scheduled.

Hmmmm. What are you doing for Thanksgiving? Are you going to your parents? I predict that day will be dangerous to Plan B, unless they now have Turkey Top Ramen.

Well for Thanksgiving the kids and I thought about catching a movie and just relaxing, decorating the Christmas tree and doing some baking. Kids expressed wanting to stay home and relax and I really wanted to be home too. Not even sure If my mom is still doing thanksgiving because her work schedule is so packed.

Why will it be dangerous. I'm not letting his cheating butt in or around. Plus it's no use I'm a ghost now LOL

Maybe I will tell the kids we were going somewhere that I haven't decided and tell em that morning that were hanging out at home that way if he asks kids he won't think we'll be here.

Oh, don't worry about it, just prepare for it.

As I told you, my ex tried to move back home 2 days before Christmas. Holidays are always ripe for waywards coming home. And especially if they are having Turkey Top Ramen for the feast.

T2L-
My thoughts are with you.

QUESTION: What do they say about false recoveries around the holidays? I mean everyone gets sentimental and homesick, (a lot of people get pets - puppies and kittens-- that soon become unwanted pets- btw)
..err, sorry, I wander...
But is there any stats about emotional return homes (too early for real recovery) at the holidays? I'm afraid that T2L's GREAT plan of action may be thrown off course if WH comes home, only to discover he has not thought everything out first--

I mean, I can see this happening, I have heard of "holiday reconciliations" -- what is the shiz?

and I do not want her family to go through this scenario--
she and her kids have been through ENOUGH--

any vets out there with advice?

Very good point Barbiecat.

Is it a LB should H come home during a holiday or our 19 year anniversary(Dec 9th) to ask him if he's really sure or if he's just feeling blues about the holidays? :happythanksgiving:

I mean there must be a way. I am in no mood for a false recovery though I know it comes with the territory.

I would really want him to know about the withdrawals he may experience and I would want him to be aware of false recoveries too.

Yes MB Vets do tell.......

I don't know about everyone else or what the vets will say but based on my own personal experience, the holidays didn't mean anything special when it came to my DH's feelings. We suffered through Thanksgiving AND Christmas with him still actively pursuing his affair. It made no difference even though we had been married 25 years and had four children. It was the first year that we didn't go to his mother's for Thanksgiving or Christmas.

Of course I had been doing everything WRONG and was no where near a Plan A at that point. My DH had no desire to be around me. I was an extreme mess... either hysterically crying or insanely raging. You, on the other hand have done a stellar Plan A and your husband has most definitely noticed.

FWIW, I can see your husband pining for his family during the holidays but I don't think it would be a false pining, but more of a pronounced awareness of what he's missing.

Watermelon rinds and pumpkin pie, painted toes and going to the gym to read, now Turkey Top Ramen... This has got to be the funniest going-to-Plan-B thread ever!

You rock. We should send all newbies to read your thread.

I bet you that Top Ramen totally has a Holiday line or maybe I should write them suggesting one just for my dear departed just Plan B'd Cheating Spouse!!! LMAO

:happythanksgiving: I mean I can see it now, Turkey ramen, :gobblegobble: Yams ramen, stuffing ramen, mashed potatoe ramen, cranberry ramen, pumpkin pie ramen, :pumkin: apple cider ramen, green bean casserole ramen, and for our cake eating Walk away cheater's cake batter ramen and we can even add a Christmas line that would add a honey basted ham flavor and sugar and ginger bread cookie ramen too, I mean whadda ya think guys, I'm feeling stinking rotten hungry now!!!!!!

I mean tell me you can see it too, and boy oh boy can ya just smell it, shoot, forget me cooking me and the kids are thinking of joining him in his car to share all these scrumptious flavor of ramen and we can even serve it on his lap top. There might even be room if we take out his suitcase and put it on top of the car.

I don't know about you but I feel the need to eat or is that puke?? LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOOOOOOOOOL!

Man I do love this thread. The possibilities of betrayed spouse madness can't get any better.