What are you having for Thanksgiving dinner?

Well I'm not having Turkey Ramen that's for sure.

Gonna make turkey and stuffing, fresh cranberries, green bean casserole but with fresh green beans not canned, garlic mashed potatoes, rolls, gravy, pumpkin and apple pie, then on Wednesday we are baking rice crispy treats, buckeye balls and peanut butter cookies. I guess that probably sounds like a lot for just us but who cares leftovers are the bomb!

How bout yous?

Me - turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, gravy, green bean casserole, candied sweet potatoes, cranberries, rolls, deviled eggs, fruit salad, green salad, and GOAT.

The goat is for my roommates and neighbors - they are hispanic and love it. I HATE it, especially the smell...............

YIKES!!!! Goat! Lamb, yes goat no!

So I'm gonna try and go see lildoggie in March when she comes to the states-at least that's my goal!

Ya hear that my lildoggie! Whooo hoooo! i can't wait!

So who's gonna be thur!!!!

I might be there in March. My mom lives in Seattle and is very ill. Even mom has heard of the firefighters climbing the stairs of the building for charity.

Yeah then if all goes well it'll be great to thank you in person!

Seattle here we come, lildoggie here we come!!!!

Sorry to hear about your mom.

Bring your umbrellas!

Queenie and johnstwin will be there to greet you and show you the sights. Seattle is our "hometown" so-to-speak.

Hope to see lots of MB' folk in March in Seattle, the rainy city...oops! I think the official slogan is The Emerald City.

(Because it's so green from all the rain)

You eat all that????

Goat is ok. If it moves, eat it
I have an irish friend that eats horse every time she goes back for a holiday

Hey B, sorry to hear about your mum.

Flick is wavering about us coming, economic down turn and all that. Maybe I'll just come by myself
I cant wait to get to meet everyone, I have been so envious of the way ya'll can just go and meet up.
Wish Ayane could come too.

Ok we need Jayne and Dealean too!

I got a personal invite!!! Y'all like me! Y'all really like me!!!

I'd love to come. It depends on the school schedule, but I can try.

(and yes, that menu sounds just about right... plus my over-achieving self usually adds some non-traditional (at least for my family) stuff like butternut squash soup and something new from epicurious.com.)

ETA: I didn't mean that to sound one-up-like. I should add that at least 2 of those dishes prolly end up with mistakes or don't get finished until the next day.

Silly woman, corse we like you, you is da bomb

Well really why don't we turn it into lildoggies MB reunion!

Anyone one else game???

I hear Seattle is lovely in March or is it the coffee in Seattle is lovely in March??? LOL

Neak?

Pep?

Seattle really is lovely, even tho it rains quite a lot.

I lived there for 18 years and never got tired of the views there. So many lovely mountains, and the Puget Sound has a unique beauty that I will always miss.

I get to look at the Blue Mountains now. Quite lovely in their own way.

You will all have a lovely time there. Just take a LOT of extra time to get where you need to be. The traffic is terrible. THAT I do not miss. LOL.

Don't forget your umbrella!!

Love in Christ,
Miss M

H just called and talked to DD17 while I was in shower. DD17 banged on the door and says dad wants to come visit.

As of this point he refuses to talk to IM's via email so my awesome threesome Pep, Neak and Delean are postal mailing him visitation and financial stuff. He is getting the information but will not respond. He wants nothing ot do with the mediators, but none the less I am still sending information though them.

So I said fine he can come visit you all again at the park behind the house. Told them all to shut the garage as he is not welcome here and that DS10 must be back by 4:30.

I would say the only thing bad about his refusal of responding to IM's is that he can call like that. I don't really want to deny the visit as the kids were free and DS10 needs to see his dad......whatever....water off a ducks back.

No worries he ain't gonna see me I'll lock the doors behind the kids and not answer my phone.

Update in a little if there is any...

Stay dark, you are doing fine. Thanksgiving Day Top Ramen is only two days away. He may get very desperate.

Well he visited at the park and then decided he wanted to take DS10 to practice, which is fun for DS10 and good for me. NO break or boundary testing, stayed dark. Personally don't even think Thanksgiving is even going to phase him. Truthfully he needs to be broken, humbled and repentant, and only God can do that. I can't nor can anyone else. At this point I don't even know how much of the affair is the reason anymore, I truly think it's his pride and its all at me and against me and cannot understand it. Whateva!

Apparently he stayed with son during practice and is going to bring him home....Glad for DS10...just hard when you know for the last 7 months you have been both parents to you kids and they want to swoop in and visit and act like some great hero.

DD17 said she had good visit with her dad, said dad said he can't believe how fast the year has went and DD17 says yeah I know and you've been gone for most of it. Wanna hear his lame a$s response, oh I haven't been gone I've been on vacation. Disgusting pig! How do you look in your daughters face and say that? Like what you've been vacationing from being a father?

I told DD17 if he asks about me which he does every time he calls them or sees them that her response should be IDK. If he asks what I'm doing, how I'm doing or where I'm at to say IDK.

She said he asked(again) whats mom doing, she says IDK, then he asks if I am listening to worship music(mocking) she says IDK, he asks If I am getting ready for thanksgiving and she responds IDK so I think he finally got his answer.

Trying to stay busy, have hard moments but my resolve ist getting stronger as I will no longer accept what I have lived under and things will have to change. After talking to Delean I think I'm going to make him complete my conditions before he comes home. there are only 6 and they are doable. I do not want him home and moved in and then I can't get him to them. Sorry, not happening. Well gonna go to target to get Christmas ornaments so I am not home when he gets here so his lil brain can fry wondering......

It is SO hard for your DD being caught in this, but hurray for her for these first difficult attempts to protect you and your darkness.

No matter how much she may want to, she can't fix this. She has to surrender the control to you and trust you to do what's best. This is a start toward getting some control of the information hemorrhage (both directions) through the children.

Stay strong, sis. All is well.