He has told me that there is nothing on this earth that he would not leave to be with me.
He has already told his Mom about us!

I think I did not write it properly. I had lost my self esteem and confidence and was always scared that if I say something my H would leave me.
When I met OM he raised my self esteem and built my lost confidence in myself.
That is what i was trying to express. Sorry, I am not very good at writing.

You didn't really believe that hogwash, did you? hon, how else do you think a man is going to get a married woman to give him some free? Seriously, can you think of any other way? That is how they do it. do you think he would get the panties down if he told you how much he loved his wife and that he would never leave her for you and that his mother would be disgusted at the sight of an OW?

The problem is that you believed him. Please note that he did not leave his wife for you and will not leave his wife. That should tell you something right there, fc25. Nor would he. He even told you he wouldn't leave her for you. He would gladly take the free nookie, but he would never marry you.

Do you think he would really leave his wife for an unfaithful woman? not likely. Nor did he tell his mother about his putrid adultery. He wouldn't be able to ever bring you home and darken his mothers doorstep.

If you don't believe me, pick up the phone and call her right now. Ask her if she knows all about his sleazy affair with a married woman. I assure you she doesn't. Your OM is a liar and a cheater whose words can't be believed. You have to look at his actions, not his words. And his actions reflect a very deceitful man.

True love AIN'T doing some married woman, fc25. That is disrespect and degradation. Men don't DEGRADE women they really love. If he loved you, he wouldn't drag you down into the pig pen as he did.

Sorry to be so harsh, but you need to realize that this man does not respect you. He told you a load of crap to get into your panties. There is nothing romantic about an affair, fc25.

they will cheat with you they will cheat on you

How do you find it acceptable to be in a relationship with a man that has no morals. What he did to his family, he will most likely do to you and your children if you were to marry him.

He preyed on a woman that was down and weak. This speaks volumes as to his character.

Sadly you do not see or refuse to see the OM for the preditor he is.

I have to strongly agree with the quote.. If he has cheated once he will do it again and again... A man like this is not to be trusted with anything.. He is a predator in one form or another..and predators never change..


I also keep reading about you and your H... How he raped you?! Are you just saying this because you are confused? Do you sometimes feel you want to be with your H, then as it progresses further you just don't know how to say no or stop, or are you thinking of the OM and feel as though you are cheating on him.. You need to really understand what you are saying when it comes to saying you were RAPED by your husband.. That can destroy his life. I don't mean to play this down but this is a very strong accusation.. We have all done something with our spouses one time or another and not wanted to do it, but we can't always call it rape.

I am not going to post here on this sight anymore as yesterday my H read all my threads and is upset and hurt. This was not my intend. I wanted to express my feelings here so I can get truthful advice from people who are not concerned who i am and would not judge me for what I have done. I wanted to make sense of my life and where I am going with all thats happening in my life. I do appreciate everyone who read and replied to my posts. Thank you all for your time. Please pray that I am able to make a aensible desicion!

Do not leave, there are many that can help you and your BH.

The thing is he and you need to stay off of each other's threads.