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This is typical fog? #2163169 11/24/08 02:49 PM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 376 L langaan Member
langaan Member L Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 376	me: i am stuck in a rut where my wife lies to me, hurts me, and has no intention of changing. You are talking to another man that has clearly hurt me before, and you have done it repeadetly. You repeatedly disregard my feelings and you justify your decision by saying that you dont understand whats worng with it. OM is not the only problem, but the surrounding behaviour is the same as the behaviour surrounding other problems in our marriage. W says: it is obvious that he is your problem and mine and his friendship is no different then friendships you and i have had with other people,not sure why you are so threatened by him. And the fact that you do not trust me... when i have never givin you a reason no to trust me. We have both moved foward in our lives and we are simply friends. and i am not sure how to explain or why i even have to with out making you more mad or hurt ------------- BH(me) 32 WW 31 Dday - EA/email fling june 2006 NC letter June 06 Dday 2-3-4 july-Nov 06 Dday 5 oct 08

Re: This is typical fog? langaan #2163186 11/24/08 03:11 PM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 558 The beautiful state of VA J JoJo422 Member
JoJo422 Member J Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 558 The beautiful state of VA	Yes it is. Quote W says: it is obvious that he is your problem and mine and his friendship is no different then friendships you and i have had with other people,not sure why you are so threatened by him. No, it's a problem that SHE doesn't see that it's wrong to have a male friend outside of the marriage Quote And the fact that you do not trust me... when i have never givin you a reason no to trust me. We have both moved foward in our lives and we are simply friends. and i am not sure how to explain or why i even have to with out making you more mad or hurt She's giving you reason to not trust her by having a male 'friend'. "Just Friends" is one of the deadliest phrases to a marriage. Me46 FWH42 Married 19 yrs EA 4/07 - 4/08 (Confirmed by polygraph that it had not gone PA) Dday1 4/13/08 Dday2 8/8/08 S26 S16 D10 Trying to Recover

Re: This is typical fog? JoJo422 #2163195 11/24/08 03:21 PM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 376 L langaan Member
langaan Member L Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 376	Originally Posted by JoJo422 Yes it is. Quote W says: it is obvious that he is your problem and mine and his friendship is no different then friendships you and i have had with other people,not sure why you are so threatened by him. No, it's a problem that SHE doesn't see that it's wrong to have a male friend outside of the marriage Quote And the fact that you do not trust me... when i have never givin you a reason no to trust me. We have both moved foward in our lives and we are simply friends. and i am not sure how to explain or why i even have to with out making you more mad or hurt She's giving you reason to not trust her by having a male 'friend'. "Just Friends" is one of the deadliest phrases to a marriage. she just told me that she is sorry for liying, and she should have told me about him when he contacted her again to tell me AND that she should have told me that she will not let me dictate who her friends are. so I said, "you're right, I cannot dictate who you have as friends, but I can dictate what I am willing to put up with in this marriage" beating the same ol wall, getting nowhere, marriage certainly over. ------------- BH(me) 32 WW 31 Dday - EA/email fling june 2006 NC letter June 06 Dday 2-3-4 july-Nov 06 Dday 5 oct 08

Re: This is typical fog? langaan #2163197 11/24/08 03:21 PM
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black_raven Member B Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 6,108	Yes it's typical fog and it's scary that you still hear it more than 2 years after your registration date. BW - me exWH - serial cheater 2 awesome kids Divorced 12/2011 Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been. We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot. --------Eleanor Roosevelt

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