thanks, MrsW. We are worried, but not overly worried because there is a very high cure rate with this kind of cancer and they caught it early.

What a tramp!!

Mel, like I say, all the groping done in our house is teasing and affectionate. I really don't know how I'd handle being "groped" for real.

So sorry to hear about Mr Mel. I hope all goes well.

Mel:

I hope that your Husband's Biopsy, like Flamingo's this summer, is all clear.

Ok, you put the word to it. Annoyance.

As Miss M and Mrs W have noted, "Because we like to" is a standard male response. I like touching Flamingo as well. And when DS15 in in the other room, I can up the ante, so to speak.

But it creates annoyance in you. (Not always, I understand, but moreso now than ever)

That's a Lovebuster. Drains the old love bank.

Lets look into some other things. Place and time.

When do you seem to get the most groping? When you two have been apart, or when things are going really well because you have been together alot?

Does is seem to always proceed to SF? Or has that diminished? and groping increased?

Are you uspet that the Texans can't win a ball game?

Or as your mood changes, his "gropeyness" increases?

Seriously. When things are going well in the M, and I've filled up Flamingo's lovebank and all is well, there is no "groping". I can hug on Flamingo all I want. She WANTS it.

Then, if not, then I know that something is up, and needs to be fixed. And if I'm not offering it TO HER, then she knows that something is up with me.

LG

PS: Mel, I think this thread can help a number of folks....

It's the REAL groping that gets on my nerves. Rearage groping does not bother me much(thought I would clarify that).

Mel,
My thoughts are with you and your DH. Sorry to hear that.

Thanks, Kiwi. I hope I am not giving the impression that I am frigid, I am NOT, believe me. We do have mucho fun usually.

Thanks LG and Michele. LG, it is annoying when I am in the middle of doing something and most especially when we are driving somewhere in the car. In one case, he has my full committed attention and in the other he does not. So, I do know that its not a lack of attention, and it is not a lack of SF either.

He just LIKES handling the merchandise as often as possible.

LOL - Good Line

Interesting Topic

I'm with you, groping is a turn off!

Sometimes men can find some measure of amusement in seeing some women's irritated response to being groped, it's one possible reason why Mr. Mel may continue the groping even though you've objected to it.

But well, if talking hasn't worked, you may need to resort to the classic ladies' response to unwelcome groping:

Next time he does it, SLAP THE SH** OUTTA HIM!

You'd pretty much guarantee him never touching you that way again.

Same here.

If I'm stretching...doing the dishes...driving...working w/ my hands...H is groping away.

So annoying.

I cannot believe how much traffic this is getting! This is like the most popular ever and I think it has much to do with the gratuitous use of the word "groping!" Just sounds edgy!
Best friend 439

Mel:

Than this:

Your in the middle of doing something? Like what? Posting here? Cooking supper? Laundry? Putting little smiley faces on pictures of your favorite bad guy?

When you WANT to do THIS and he WANTS to do THAT, then it is annoying, and a distraction.

And driving? Keep his hands to himself! That can be akin to drunken and drugged driving! Someone can GET HURT!

Now, I can hold Flamingos hand or rest my hand on her thigh, or even give it a squeeze or rub, IF I am driving. If she is, I tend to keep my hand in hers. Don't want to be a distraction.

Mr ML is using the "groping" as a attention getter. You won't step away from what you are doing using other methods. But the "groping" seems to work. Or, you have just grown tried of the game. And wish he would stop.

LG

I know! He says the seat belt is "enticing."

LMAO!

aha! So he waits until you are DEFENSELESS and then moves in for the kill!

Exactly!

And he wonders why I get PO. :RollieEyes:

Wow, I step away to eat dinner and a full 5 pages developed before I get back.

It is not that I detest "groping" so much as what the assumption is that goes along with it. When we are in a mutually playful mood, groping is fun. BUT, If H wants SF while I'm doing my same old daily routines, he gropes. He wants SF and that is his way of telling me he is being affectionate, and now can we "get busy?"

If I don't go along with it, or pull away, this bothers him. It's not that I don't want SF, I would just rather have a more genteel way of him broaching the subject on a daily basis.

In my world, daily affection (my kind) can lead to daily SF for both of us. Daily affection (his kind) can lead to irritation. So if his opinion of affection is groping, and it's causing a LB, then it's not appropriate. There is a time and place for everything. You just have to know how to read her clock.

That is the difference.

Girl, you nailed it right there!!

Mel:

Sorry, I didn't realize this was the ladies thread...

LG