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Originally Posted by schoolbus
I'm telling you Mel, they sell this spray-on stuff that you can get - spray it on your license plate and the cameras can't capture the license number. No more toll tickets or red-light tickts. Check it out.

Busted on Mythbusters.....

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Word on the Street is that Motorola is about to run out of gas.
They'd be in a lot better shape if they dumped their handset division.

Besides, it's a metaphor for two-way radio...

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Oh, heck, Mel! Just keep some mud smeared on your license plate. That'll keep the cameras from taking a picture of your tag number!

Back to the topic...

One thing I've noticed on a lot of the guys' posts is that they talk about "GETTING SF". It sounds as if they think the F in SF is supposed to be only for them.

Maybe that is the impression their wives may be getting, too, and therein lies the problem.

A husband who gropes without giving his wife the affection in the way SHE DESIRES is, IMHO, akin to the guy who, when initiating SF, skips the hugs, kisses, and starts straight in to digging to China (under the mistakened idea that she will be "ready" faster), whams, bams, and rolls over to start snoring.

Meanwhile, his wife feels like a blow-up doll.

Guys need to understand that what turns them on does not necessarily turn their wives on.

A better way to "get" SF would be to start thinking of SF as making love to your wife, and then ACTING that way. The F in SF is NOT JUST FOR MEN!

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Originally Posted by piojitos
In that epic battle of Dom Peringon champagne vs lingerie, my money is on lingerie. (5 to 1)

I wouldn't take that bet.....what I meant was not champagne verses lingerie,,,,,what I meant was champagne AND Victoria Secrets Lingerie....SHE got both....

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Ohhhhhh....

My bad.

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Originally Posted by lildoggie
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I asked Flic and the first words out of his mouth???
"because I can"



rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao


Lil, I swear this is true......MINE SAID THE EXACT SAME THING......

I asked him last night at the mall (after he grabbed my a$$... flirt). I laughed till my side hurt. Are you SURE we don't have the same H?????

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no biggie....I figured you were a guy and didn't understand the VS thing. Funny how a male would think I was saying "verses".......made me laugh, which I really needed at the time.....

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Originally Posted by Lady_Clueless
Meanwhile, his wife feels like a blow-up doll.
rotflmao



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While I have never been groped; I can probably tell you what's going through a guy's mind as they grope.

If they're groping you it's one of two things (the former of which is more likely):

1. You're sending out "those" signals.
2. He's a donkey.

...I know if I was a guy and I groped it would be initiated only if "those" signals had been given, that 'she' was in the mood.


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I guess it could be true that we're sending off signals saying we wish to be groped...if those signals are stuff like opening the dishwasher and turning on the kitchen faucet, or brushing my teeth, or finally dropping into bed with an exhausted sigh while wearing flannel pj's... dontknow


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In that case, #2 is more likely.

Or possibly #3.

3. He's just trying to provide affection.

You know how men are. They mostly equate affection with physical things anyway.


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

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Originally Posted by at peace
I guess it could be true that we're sending off signals saying we wish to be groped...if those signals are stuff like opening the dishwasher and turning on the kitchen faucet, or brushing my teeth, or finally dropping into bed with an exhausted sigh while wearing flannel pj's... dontknow

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""skips the hugs, kisses, and starts straight in to digging to China"" :crosseyedcrazy: think


After laughing out loud at this, the movie projector in my head went on the fritz, totally blew a fuse. rotflmao

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You could take this a step farther and say that if men buy lingerie, it is only b/c they want SF. What else is lingerie used for? That being the case, some women would feel 'pressured' if they got a gift of lingerie and some would be thrilled (those who love getting gifts). I think this is the same for the whole 'groping' thing. Some women see it as affection and some see it as an 'expectation'.


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Originally Posted by HURTandSHOCKED
You could take this a step farther and say that if men buy lingerie, it is only b/c they want SF. What else is lingerie used for? That being the case, some women would feel 'pressured' if they got a gift of lingerie and some would be thrilled (those who love getting gifts). I think this is the same for the whole 'groping' thing. Some women see it as affection and some see it as an 'expectation'.

Wow, what an unfair indictment of thoughtful and romantic husbands...It's all about perspective, isn't it? To say, "if men buy lingerie it's only because they want SF" just sounds so wrong to me...OF COURSE they want SF if they are normal, healthy men...I think that that is WONDERFUL...How flattering...

So, a shift in perspective would work wonders:

I would think: My husband loves me and wants to be close to me...one of the ways [usually the biggest way for men] that he does that is to have SF with me, and he WANTS that! I am so LUCKY to have a husband that desires to be close to me...and even luckier still that he took TIME, EFFORT and THOUGHTFULNESS regarding that by buying me lingerie...How incredible and complimentary that he thinks that I will look *sexy* in this...*SWOON* grin

When I truly got that sex is how men feel connected to their wives is when everything around here changed...For us, this simple change in perspective on my part truly was a Godsend...For years I had made the DJ that Mr. W only wanted SF to "get off"...I didn't believe him when he said it was about getting close to me...connecting with me...Once I believed that [Thanks MB!] the world and our marriage became a much brighter place...smile

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
Originally Posted by at peace
I guess it could be true that we're sending off signals saying we wish to be groped...if those signals are stuff like opening the dishwasher and turning on the kitchen faucet, or brushing my teeth, or finally dropping into bed with an exhausted sigh while wearing flannel pj's... dontknow

rotflmao

Remember the movie Chocolat?
link to YouTube trailer

half way through the trailer - the woman scrubbing her shower floor rotflmao


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All I can say, since all of this SF stuff has been basically shut off from me, is that I'm saving for a new and very expesive set of golf clubs.

Victoria Secret be damned! :happythanksgiving:

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
Remember the movie Chocolat?
link to YouTube trailer

half way through the trailer - the woman scrubbing her shower floor rotflmao

OMG that is too funny... rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao

Anybody been asked to clean in the buff? Or is this way TMI?

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