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Every weekend my wife and I have the same arguement; it may cause us to divorce. On the weekend, she needs time to run, time for herself and time to work.
We have 2 kids: a 2yr old and a 5 yr old.
I feel that she is trying to escape from the family and I, of course, take care of the kids.
She says she needs 1.5 hours each on Saturday and Sunday to run. 2 hours to work. And, another 4 hours for herself with maybe a friend to do something else.
I'm just curious....does this sound reasonable?
First she said 10 hours per weekend, then she lowered it to 8 hours per weekend.
Any comments?
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First of course, is are you sure she is doing what she says she is doing? In other words, is ehe really running, working, etc.? If so, read on.
Explain your weekly schedule. Then explain hers. Tell me what she does in a given weekday. What do you do in a given weekday? All the way up to bedtime.
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We both work traditional day jobs...she's a teacher.
I feed the kids breakfast, make their lunches and take them to pre-school.
She picks them up. We have dinner, watch TV, read some books to the kids then go to bed.
We're older parents to have such little kids (50 and 41), so we're pretty drained. We never have sex....maybe 1x every 2 months.
I do think she's doing what she says she's doing on the weekends.
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I think she's being selfish. Do I think she deserves time to run, work, and chill? Sure, she does. Should it come at YOUR expense? Um, no.
This is certainly something that can be negotiated. Would it be acceptable to you if she moved her running time to a time when the kids are not very demanding? Early morning, naptime?
Could her two hours of working be moved to a different time, say, spread out over the week, or could she get up early on Monday to take care of it?
Do YOU get four hours of her undivided attention every week? Why does a friend get that, and you don't? How about you get a sitter for four hours every weekend, and the two of you go out and chill?
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)
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