Both the OMW and I went to the job place looking for our spouses. My wife ran away, and the OM denied all. We showed him taped confessions of my wife and he said she was nuts.

Now my wife hates me. She's mad, says I ruined it all, and now we have no opportunity to reconciliation. She has moved with a friend, and I just don't know what to do. Our children are with my mother, and I told her to keep them as my wife said she would take them with her.

What now? I'm hopeless. Please help me.

When did you expose?

Her anger will be temporary. Hunker down and ride it out.

Some hours ago. Thank you very much for posting. As english is not my first language, I don't understand what do you mean by "hunker down and ride it out"?. I'm very afraid, I don't want to lose her, and maybe I really ruined it all.

It means your wife will be furious and nasty to you but it will only be for a little while. So just wait for her anger to pass

But she'll move! How can I Plan A now? Do I still need to send the letters to the HR and director? I'm scared.

Calm yourself!!

Yes - still send letters.

What are you scared about?

She will leave me and maybe will try to take away my kids.

I thought she had already left?

And yes - those things may indeed happen - but they surely will happen if you do nothing too.

Yes, she will if you don't keep up the pressure to kill the affair! Send the letters to Human Resources and finish your exposure. Good job!

Don't be scared, she is supposed to be angry because you have interfered in her affair. Your marriage can survive her temporary anger, it can't survive an ongoing affair.

So, don't let her anger scare you into submission. Keep up the pressure on her affair!

You did the right thing.

p.s. don't allow her to remove your children from their home. They should not be punished because she is angry about her affair.

She taked some clothes and went to a friends house. I mean I love her (yes, I'm an idiot) and I'm afraid she definitively leaves me. I thank you very much for your support.

CALM DOWN!!

you did just great today! You dealt a huge blow to the affair by bringing it out into the open. The affair will start to crumble now that you have ruined the secrecy.

She will be back! don't worry. She is just angry because you are interfering with her affair. GOOD JOB!!

Remember, the goal is to SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE. Not to avoid making your wife angry at all costs!

I'm confused. Now should I keep working on plan A, both if she leaves or stays?

Yep! And get the rest of your exposures all finished up tomorrow so you get your moneys worth out of her anger.

What happened with the OMW? I take you called on her and she believed you this time?

Yes, I told her about the recordings. She talked with her husband. They're very bad. It seems her daughter is in psycological treatment because she found her father in bed wtith another woman. He has cheated several times after that.

Does your wife know he called her NUTS? I would make sure she knows he said that and denied her existence.

solario, I know you are scared right now but that is because you do not have experience with this. I am not scared at all because I have seen this played out a hundred times. All waywards are FURIOUS when they are exposed. But they get over it quick.

I was more scared for your marriage this morning when nothing had been done.

What they don't get over is the DAMAGE inflicted to the affair. Transparency is CHEMOTHERAPY and what you just did helped your marriage more than anything else you could have done.

Keep up your exposures, solario, and get them all done tomorrow while you have the affair under your foot. Killing the affair is the way to save your marriage.

Don't be SCARED. Be PROUD that you stood up for your marriage today. machismo...

She came here and insulted me. Says she invented all the affair because she didn't want to be with me in the first place. She's very angry.