Good! So glad!
Ok. Here's what I see. First, he doesn't sound that great. He probably is just like the last guy you had; we DO tend to keep picking the same types, you know. That's what the counseling is for - to teach you to recognize those self-destructive behaviors we have so we don't pick another loser.
That said, if you haven't dated that long, now is a perfect time to start enforcing your boundaries; if he's an ok guy, he'll go along with it, and if he's another jerk he won't put up with your self-protection and he'll leave. And you'll be better off knowing now than once you're engaged, right?
Remember all that? Determine what you need from a healthy, loving relationship (forget about bf for the time). What would make you happy to spend time with a guy every day? It may help to write it out; keep a little list in your wallet and on your bathroom mirror.
I need a man who:
Wants to listen to me talk.
Shares his own experiences with me.
Likes to try new adventures like dancing or a sport or day trips...
Includes me when he interacts with his family and friends.
Interacts with MY family and friends and doesn't disrespect them.
Stuff like that. Keep it in the back of your mind, and if he crosses one of these things, it's a warning signal. That's when you say "You know, it worries me that when I asked if I could go to the football game with you and Dave and Jane, you said you didn't want me to go. Being excluded makes me feel you only want me at your convenience. So if that's the kind of relationship you want, we need to talk about it. Because that's not what I'm looking for."
Stand up for yourself, and see what happens.
