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It's kinda a we can call ourselves a red-neck, but northerners can't.
In the south, we have been the object of ridicule for so long that all the good here is ignored to cover up for the serious flaws up north.
Once you have REALLY gotten to know the South, you will see the terrible injustice of the class discrimination.
It's warm, beautiful and almost still pristine. Our resources have always been managed as we love our environment and the wildlife that we share it with.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
It's kinda a we can call ourselves a red-neck, but northerners can't.
you yankees cannot call us red-necks!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
I find the word offensive...but if a black uses it, it is stupid to suggest others can't as well.
Even black leaders have admonished their people for the use of this word for this very reason.
I know nothing of Compton...but know the mean streets of Philly.
I find - and this is just my perspective - that it's one thing for 2 people in the same ethnic minority to use a word to describe themselves than for an outsider to use it. But I understand what you say about black leaders.
I just don't think it's the same thing.
It MAY also be OK if it's part of a close circle of friends where intent IS known.
Just my 2c
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
I think it's kinda funny the we Americans have a slang term for every ethnic group that makes up America, the melting pot.
I'm Irish and don't mind at all being callled a "mick."
The only objection I might have is Southern Gals using copious amouts of hairspray, that undoubtly contributes to global warminig.
The rifle on the gun rack in the back window of a pickup truck, and the Confederate flag flying from the radio antena of their truck, doesn't bother me at all .
I am going to get blasted on here for what I am about to say...
If someone has spots, you make fun of them for having spots - you call them spotty
If someone has red hair, you make fun of them for having red hair - calling them carrot-top, ginger etc..
If someone is taller or shorter than average, you make fun of them for this
What is the different if someone's skin is too white or too dark? Really?
I have been ridiculed for my height (6'4"), large nose and gait for years - and I have given as good as I got to the perpetrators.
Maybe I feel this way because I'm Australian and making fun of each other is a way of life for us - and we are one diverse nation. I would never base someone's worth as a human being on their ethnic origins or colour. I would never refuse to employ someone or afford them basic respect that all humans deserve, simply because they looked different to me.
I just wish we would all stop being so precious and get on with the business of living.
Me: 36 FWW: 36 1 son born in Dec 2009 - confirmed mine through DNA test 1 daughter born in Nov 2010 Together: 13½ years Married: 10 years
PA/EA: January 2008 to July 2009 FWW left for OM: 01/28/2008 FWW returned for 9 days: 04/2008 FWW returned 05/21/2008
Well I'm an Australian too and I think you will find some ethnic minorities will see such nick names as a racial slur if you as a whit Australian use them but they will regard it as a term of affection from one of their own.
All depends on the relationship you have with the person.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
Just recently, Jesse Jackson had to publicly apologize for using the n-word towards Obama over a live mic. He has previously condemned use of the word by all people but especially blacks.
Rather than pick and choose where and with whom one can use a slur, it's probably best not to use them at all.
The state of wisconsin fire fighters union president resigned his posts on several state and local boards after using the slur in reference to Obama, in casual conversation the day after the election. Someone nearby had overheard the comment, took offense and it became public. The kicker is that being union, he backed Obama. One word ruined his career and reputation.
Well I'm an Australian too and I think you will find some ethnic minorities will see such nick names as a racial slur if you as a white Australian use them but they will regard it as a term of affection from one of their own.
All depends on the relationship you have with the person.
G'Day BigKahuna,
You're right about this.
But then I wouldn't walk up to a redhead that I didn't know, or a spotty person I don't know and make fun of them for this.
I wouldn't walk up to a dwarf in the street and start mickey-taking.
Like you said - all depends on what relationship you have with the person.
Me: 36 FWW: 36 1 son born in Dec 2009 - confirmed mine through DNA test 1 daughter born in Nov 2010 Together: 13½ years Married: 10 years
PA/EA: January 2008 to July 2009 FWW left for OM: 01/28/2008 FWW returned for 9 days: 04/2008 FWW returned 05/21/2008
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
Quit lyin, you foreign devil, you have no feelings!! :RollieEyes:
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt