Do the exposure at once 2 everyone you expose 2. Don't threaten or otherwise try 2 leverage your W with exposure. You expose because it's the truth and it's the right thing 2 do. It's not punishment.

And really, if their "friendship" is above board (impossible), they won't be upset at all with everyone knowing. They should be doing the exposing themselves, in fact!

-ol' 2long

That is why my wife got so mad when she found out that I told OMW. Because it is more than friendship. My wife was so upset she told me things like now I have to patch things up, and she told me that with tears in her eyes. She was mad all day long and even went for a walk for 2 hours. She never goes for a walk.

An emotional affair is just as bad as a physical one. It may even be worse for a WW. Though men are more hurt by physical infidelity, women are more hurt by emotional infidelity. Similarly, an emotional A is more likely to draw them from the M whether it has gone physical or not. Stop wasting your time on these details. You saw the IMs. What more proof to you need?

Probably on the phone trying to smooth things over with him.

Oh! I am sure she was on the phone with him all day long trying to patch things up. That little comment from her pi!@# me off so bad. I was just told by a coworker that they were seen in the halls at the office together today. i just do not understand why OMW would not listen to me. I have not heard a peep out of her. It would have been a lot easier if she had not turned a blind eye, that is why this time I am going to give her the proof as well.

Thinking this:


and this:


Is how I got not 1, but TWO OCs out of my husband's infidelity.

There is nothing speshul or friendly about this.

It's a full-blown, nuclear assault aimed directly at your home, your children, and you.

Pardon me if I'm wrong, but all I've seen is that you've exposed to OMW...and the repetition that she believes her hubby.

Big.

Fat.

Hairy.

Deal.

After that, I see no further evidence of exposure.

Your waynerd wife works with this stole-meat, right?

Why haven't you told their HR? Why haven't you given your (and your children's) side of this mess to your parents and hers? Why doesn't her boss know? Why has this not been shouted from the highest of mountains (and Arkansas has some pert near suitable moutaintops)? Why?

Conflict avoidence is ALL I see you doing...and TRUST! This girl here knows a bit about CA.

You have video...it NEEDS to be sent to the wife of OM. You've planted the seed of doubt in her mind...and 25 minutes alone in another woman's car is NOT easily blown off by ANY true wife/woman as "untrue" and "grasping at straws." 25 to ANY loving wife is grounds for nailing certian naughty bits to a wall and carrying his set of gonads in her purse for the rest of their married lives - no matter how fuzzy the vid is.

SoooooiEEEEEEE!

Kimmy

Certain - ahem - things - do not show up in chonies.

Ask Clinton.

OMG - exposure is gonna be da'bomb!

My thoughts exactly.

HF - I read of a BW who put flyers on all of the cars at the OW's school (she was an elementary school teacher). The OW got canned b/c it outed her and MM doing the proverbial "it" in the parking lot of the school.

SNAP!

The really satisfying part was that the scummy OW wanted to file charges against the wife but couldn't because it's not slander when it is the TRUTH!

Exposing to the school board just adds more to the fact that I need more evidence. the PI that I have hired is going to watch her at work starting at 4pm for the next few days wed., thur., fri.. He has gotten a hold of a better camera that may help with the tinted windows in my WW car. I have a feeling that when I am gone on friday (only 40 minutes away and waiting for pi to call) that she will bring him to the house while I or the kids are not there. If that happens my plan is to head to the house, call OMW, ask her if she knows where her H is, then tell her to meet me at my house. I just have a gut feeling thta something will happen. I had the same feeling the friday that I got the first video and that is exactly what happened. The PI was not there 5 minutes before he saw OM parked by my W and then my wife walks out gets in the car, and 1 minute OM walks out and gets in the car with her.

Beleive me I can not wait to expose this. As a matter of fact I just also learned that OM is not only a member of the school board he is the vice president. Real piece of work to be working with the lively hood of other peoples kids. This thing is going to destroy this OM in more ways than one, and ift will be satisfactory to me.

It won't really be satisfactory. It doesn't make your pain any less. It's like blowing on a boo-boo to make it "feel" better. It's more for the mind than the soul.

Trust here.

It still hurts like the devil - and it's gonna hurt his wife and kids...dunno about you, but I feel bad for THEM (not at all bad for him and your actively waynerd wife).

But still...

He CHOSE this - and cannot say ever that it was not a possible consequence. That he/they never THOUGHT it is his/their tough noogies.

(I can hear my dh chanting "failure to KNOW the law does not excuse breaking it"...cops! sheesh!)

It NEEDS to come out, too. This dirty rotten secret of theirs is only going to fester and ooze under the surface of both families until it's lanced and bled clean. Until it is, it's going to poison both with it's evilness.

Blah.

Adultry hoovers.

Big time.

Is there a school board meeting coming up?

You might consider exposing live and in person - with the school board secretary taking minutes:

Ladies and gentlemen - Mr Toad has been having a secret romantic affair with my wife. I am here to inform Mr Toad that his interference is unwelcome, and his adultery is causing great harm to me and mine. Mr Toad, you must cease and desist your extramarital affair with MY WIFE. Thanks you all for listening.

short - sweet - to the point - then leave

I have thought about that as well. This thing may be deeper than I know at this point, but the total truth is on the way out. I am ready to blow it up now with my coworker telling me what he saw this morning, but i know I have to stay the course to make this as miserable on OM as I can. Yes, I feel bad for his wife and 3 kids, but they need to know the truth. If only OMW would have listened it may not have had to get this far. This hurts me liek the devil, but it is time for my WW and OM to feel that hurt as well. I truly believe that when OMW does believe that this is really happening that she will have a lot of hard things to say to OM. I have already heard through the person that cuts my hair that she has been complaining about OM always gone, never at home to spend time with the family.

another question. How long does it take for the hurt of this to go away. I was not over the hurt from the 1st OM when I found out about the 2nd OM. Just wondering how long it takes. It seems liek it just compunded for me. My WW seems to be in a happy place where I always feel down. Whe I mention to my wife that part of her responsibility in marriage is to do thing sto make each other happy she replie with you have to make yourself happy. How do you do that when this is being done to you. You know when I have talked with my wife about OM1 she will say to me here we go again. When I have spoke to her about OM2 she will say wer are just friends and that I am doing all of this. Is this common responses from WWS?

Yep.

This is called gaslighting. Nothing new at all

She already knows, then.

She's feeling out what other people think is going on.

When you doubt truly, you keep your mouth shut.

When the doubt turns into the roar of all the puzzle pieces clicking into place, you dig others for information.

He is stealing from his own family...and your wife is equally a thief.

They steal time and emotion that is MEANT for their children and spouse, then spend it on one another.

Disgusting when you realize that for the first time - when you think about it and realize the enormity of their skullduggery.

She needs the proof, then. She's actively searching for it.

BTDT.

He's blowing rainbows up her skirt to keep her quiet...she probably gets gaslighted (gas-lit?) so much she is getting carbon monixide poisoning.

Gah.

I think I just vurped a little.

I'm thinking if HF gets his video evidence, there's not going to be much marriage left in his mind to salvage, nor much, if any, will to try. And I don't have a problem with that. The first time could be an out-of-character lapse, a mistake, etc. The 2nd time, and thereafter? That's a doggone habit. And the sooner HF and his daughters are out of this, the better for them all.

Nuclear exposure is good, but if I were HF, I wouldn't be wading through the fallout trying to pick up any pieces for reconstruction!

tl

It just makes me so angry that my W that I was beginning to trust after OM1 would do this to our family again. It makes me just as angry to have to hurt another lady and kids. But I guess what will make me feel some what better is the fact that the truth has finally come out. The next three days shoudl be very interesting, and it is very hard to not say anything. When I am at home at night around my W and she acts like I do not exist that just makes it hurt more. When I take care of things around the house all night and watch her either watch TV or go to the bathroom constantly to text it makes me sick. I look at her and wonder who she is, who she has become, because she is not the warm, loving person that I married any longer. How long does it take to get over this hurt/pain?

I agree. If I get the video evidence I need. And for OM sake I would not show up at my house on Friday when I was gone if I was him. If I confronted him in my home it would not be pretty. I just wonder if my WW wife is stupid enough right now to do something like that.