My whole family are coming to my house on Christmas day for lunch . This will be my 3rd Christmas without WH...so I'll be ok.

My sisters kids are 4 and 8 and having young kids around on Christmas day makes the day more cheerful somehow...

What are you guys going to do for Christmas lunch? Give us some ideas.

Last year we binged out on watching the complete series of Desperate housewives. Don't want to do that again...

DS16 came home yesterday(I haven't seen him for 10 days!)....he spent the night with a friend so I fetched him after work and his friend came home with us too.In the car on the way home,DS16 blurted out that he and OW had had serious words!!!WH apparently never got involved????It had to do with OW's eldest boy moaning to her about DS16.DS16 told her off and he was very proud of it....His friend with us, complained about her as well(he spent a night there with DS16) and his only met her twice.DS16 says OW is getting fat!!!!

They have been in this house about 6 weeks now and they haven't had their satelite dish aligned yet!!is money a problem?? so they have been given the xbox so they have something to do!!

I know I shouldn't know this but DS16 is a bit of a motor mouth...
Its been nearly 3 weeks being dark and it feels good....

I'm not going to say anything...(clenched teeth)

Don't hold your breath as a consequence of this report. This may be God's providence that is allowing a voice to break through WH and OW fog.

They are being tested and graciously been given opportunities to repent. Sadly this heaps judgement on them as they willfully ignore it.

Have you had your sea cruise dinner yet? Was it the Sea Queen?

We had our work do on Thursday night.The boat is called "the sea horse".It was too windy to cruise around the waterfront so they gave us a voucher that we can use which covers a 2 hour cruise.The night was otherwise fantastic!!
We thinking of going for the cruise in Feb...and having snacks and cocktails too!!

DS18 had a blast in Plett and slept for hours when he got home on Friday afternoon!I cooked him a lekka meal and boy did he appreciate it!

The boys are going to WH today for a week as their cousins arrive today.DS16 phoned WH around 10pm last night as he had a missed call on his cell...he was busy towing his sis and her family as their car had broken down on the drive down from Jo'burg.He said he would be home by 3am....he was about 600km away!!!
Not a nice way to start a holiday...I can't believe how there is always drama and complications in WH's life nowadays!!

I know I shouldn't know so much .....DS16 told me that OW is always having "hissy fits"...and that she breaks down and cries very easily...crazy woman.

I am feeling good and making plans for Christmas day celebrations

my "censored word wasn't a bad one??..alcoholic drinks with little umbrellas in them etc...!!!!

Yeah! I was also puzzled about that one.

Thursday WAS draughty. We went to Mojolenas that night. Fantastic.... and the folk were so friendly. The wind DID blow down an outside perimeter wall though.

And I'm glad that the holiday preps have got to you. Enjoy being busy!

Imagine, I also wondered wether they were being tested.....
Its amazing how their lives haven't reallY run smoothly since their affair began...

They have both lost their jobs.
OW's car packed up permanently.
They have been forced to move house.
Constant trouble with the kids emotional status.
WH started a new business with much stress from banks etc.
They moved home and opened the shop the same weekend as all the shops in the complex his in, opened together!
Now his family is here and their car breaks down which will cause transport problems while they are here...

All this and they are still together..maybe their relationship is stronger than I thought.

I really don't know how to react to his sister and mom if they contact me....I definitely won't discuss WH...

I have decided to compile a list of the times I've felt God has truly answered my prayers through all this.I'm jotting them down as they come to mind in no particular order....

I have a habit of saving my R5 coins in a jar.....when my car broke down and I had very little money to pay for the repairs,I asked DS16 to count my R5 coins.The amount I had in the jar was the exact amount, with R5 to spare!!(no, I didn't pay the mechanic with them!I exchanged them at the bank)

My friends have ALWAYS phoned me up whenever I was alone and feeling down..unbeknown to them.

I have drawn closer to God and He has placed Christian people in my path who have guided me in their own way.

When things have broken down in my home,I never had to ask for help,friends would pitch up and help out of the blue..

Financially He has blessed me abundantly....I have opportunities to work lots of overtime now...

Without bible-punching my boys,they have become closer to God too.DS16 has a new friend who happens to be very involved in his church and he wants DS16 to go on a Christian youth camp with him in a few weeks time..DS16 is questioning faith a lot and is a bit agro at times about God,so this is perfect for him...

I have been to places I otherwise wouldn't have gone to if WH was at home,I have ventured out....

He has given me a new figure which has boosted my self-esteem!!

I have learnt to stop worrying and saying...but what if.....and really putting my trust and faith in God. He has ALWAYS come through for me.....one way or another..

Well thats my list for now...I'm sure it will grow in time.!!

Hi Hope,
Just got back from the Paarden island flea market. We know 25% of the stall owners, so it's pretty much like visiting friends.

When I mentioned testing earlier, I was referring to having their sins exposed. I guess that all the disasters that WH and OW have been exposed to would tend to cement the relationship. But what happens in the quiet moments when silences stretch....

Anyway, I am failing to draw you away from thinking about WH. This is remiss of me. I am wonderfully encouraged that you are counting your blessings.

Are you working again today?

I love flea markets....no I'm at home today.

I always have a REAL christmas tree...I managed to get a lovely full tree and I 'm going to decorate it later...and put up all the other trimmings....
I won't get sad.....

I just got off the phone with WH's other sister in Jo'burg (they were very close untill she told WH what she thought of his behaviour) She was unaware that her mom was coming to cape town. She had received an e-mail from her sis saying they were coming to cape town.Shes quite hurt that the rest of the family is with WH...

Its her birthday on the 17th Dec and she wonders if they'll remember...so sad.

I explained to her that WH is very self-absorbed and in the fog and not to take any notice of his behaviour.

Will chat later again....

Hi Hope,

Checking in on you girl. You seem to be doing pretty darn good. What a difference a year makes, eh lady?

I'm glad you are in my life so I can see your faith growing and getting stronger and your recovery increasing every post.

Keep up the awesome work.

Queenie,I'm trying although I still have my down days....
This weeks going to be tough cos the boys are with WH for about 10 days so I'm going to miss them terribly...

I keep thinking they all having a good time...

Y'know I think Queenie IS on the button. You ARE stronger.

You have a social circle, a family circle and an internet family.
Your work activities are profitable and you are experiencing new avenues open to you.

Your children show character and fortitude. You are able to recognize God's hand in your life.

Its all good from where I sit.

Hope, I would imagine that we will always have some down days every so often. It's only natural.

But how we bounce back and keep moving it the testament to our strength and growth.

I love you girl -

You guys are so supportive...thank you...

I feel I have to CHOOSE to be as strong and positive about my life as possible.I have chosen not to become bitter and twisted with WH because than he has defeated me spiritually and I won't give him that power over me.

It would be so much easier to allow those negative emotions to take over...I think its better to just remove him from my life,mentally and physically, as hard as that is to do.

You CHOSE life a long time ago. Don't go changing your mind y'hear.

Enjoy your holiday tomorrow!

Going Christmas shopping with my sister and mom tomorrow....

Why are you still up? My excuse is I have an empty bed!! LOL

:twobyfour: :twobyfour: NO SNORING :twobyfour: :twobyfour:

You're so funny!! Its midnight here...