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I can't really answer your question because the thread was locked down, and re-opening the topic will only result in this one receiving the same treatment, so let me simply say that I think what you're attempting to do (marriage recovery), given your continued misgivings--and to my medically-educated opinion--can only be enormously stressful to both your body and mind...which is, in the long run, unhealthy for you, perhaps even deadly. I'm not sure it's healthy for your wife, either. I'm not saying you shouldn't try it, but I recognize the great difficulty of the task ahead of you, and wish it could be easier for you both.
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I agree with you there 100%.

I feel like this has already taken years off my life, but I'm no expert in damage caused by stress, and how it may or may not be repaired once the stress is removed.

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I did NOT call it a character flaw.uhuh:MrEEk:uhuh I think the physiological responses to stress are pretty much involuntary anyway, which is why they're so damaging, since the stressee is simply unable to abitrarily protect himself from the effects. I am a "living" crazy testimony to the effects of long-term stress. And I'm talking decades. I'm not giving you advice on how to do it. Just acknowledging that for your own sake I hope you can find some way to deal with the stress that your internal conflict will inevitably produce.

And don't count on it taking years off your life. I've made it to almost 61 without seeing any chopping effect...but it sure has made those 40 years seem like a looooooooooooooooooooooong time!

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