When you stop dropping by the farm implements store checking out the new models of woodchippers and let your subscription to Limb Removal Monthly magazine lapse.

...when, while you are woodchipping, you think about 101 uses for mulch, and not about that scene in Fargo ...

SMB,

You actually get there, yes.


You can also drive up OW's street and not think twice.



And there actually comes a day when the first thought in the morning is:


TURN OFF THE ALARM!!!!

AND NOT ANYTHING ABOUT THE AFFAIR!!!!!!!


And you don't even remember the affair until around,,,,,,,noon maybe.......or later even.......


or today, for example, I didn't think about it until I logged in here to try to help someone else through their day.


It happens.


Three years, last month.



Three years down this path. You will get there, and you will put some of the burden down.

Be sure, though, that somewhere on your path you remember to put it ALL down. I'm working on that. Putting all of the burden down.


I think it is okay to do that. I need to remember that the pain is not necessary to carry with the memory. I learned that with the rape, and need to apply it here to this experience. I am always learning in this life. It is the application that I seem to have trouble with.


SB

looking forward to this

AAhhhhhh, when the diarrhea finally stops.....

...you can talk about stuff with the OWH or OMW and that has NOTHING at all to do with the affairees!!

Charlotte

"7. You can have great SF with your spouse, and nothing else crosses your mind,"

Not even biting it off..........................

And the resounding THUD you all heard was all our male boardmembers fainting dead away!

Oops, sorry guys. Maybe I should edit and move that one to the goddess thread where it is only us ladies................

Me too School.....

not2fun

Holy crap! I didn't know we were supposed to APPLY the knowledge. Sheesh, THAT'S where I'm going wrong

You two are great!! That was the best one I've heard yet - I laughed so hard that I just had to send it to my x and let him know that:

At least believer and dealan-de had nicer thoughts than mine!!

Let it hang with an ice-pick pulled through it!!

And the resounding THUD you all heard was all our male boardmembers fainting dead away!

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Still haven't figured out why he keeps writing to me. At least I found out what his problem really is & finally stopped blaming myself for everything that was going wrong. (& stopped letting him blame me either)

Great thread B,

Mission accomplished!

When you DS calls his dad, and overhear him asking to speak to his dad....and you no longer want to literally

When a 'trigger' still gets you crying, only you can now multi-task and at least get some chords done at the same time!

When you see WS's number on the phone display (besides never answering - I always let boys take call)... no longer have an anxiety attack over it.

When you see there's an email from WS, and you are VERY GRATEFUL that at least you do not have to deal with WS...directly!

As you can see B, I am LOVING this brainstorming....

I can tell you, there were days when I pondered the many ways the weedeater might be useful. Especially if you replaced the string with one of those little saw thingies.


As far as the OW goes, I saw her in a bar awhile back, hitting on another OM. I pondered walking up to her and asking, "So, have the STD results come back yet?"


But, that would have been spiteful. Everyone knows I am not "spiteful".


They usually describe me as ingeniously vengeful. But I'm over that now.