I feel like I should face a firing sqaud for the weekend I had, when I'm supposed to be in Plan B. <P>I left off with my H's brother & wife coming to stay Fri night. I invited H because he rarely gets to see any of his family (I know, Plan B, no excuses). We had a nice evening, H was sooo sweet. He spent the night. The next day H had made hotel reservations so he & kids could continue being with family--and my kids didn't want to stay at H's & besides H's roomate had a date with OW, so H didn't want to be there either.<P>H invited me to the hotel to see the rest of the kin. We had a nice time...I spent the night, even though I had brought my own car.<P>I love sleeping with my H & simply didn't want to resist. In Plan A that wouldn't be wrong.<P>Anyway, I got up Sun & left H & kids. He & I talked a bit when he dropped them off. He says he loves me, misses me, isn't ready to come home. I told him I really enjoy his company this weekend. He said "You did?" I said sure, why not? He said, "Because I'm no fun anymore." I said I love being with you. I love you. "I love you too, Lor." <P>But still...he's not moving home. But we didn't mention the word "divorce" all weekend, and I know he hasn't made any moves. I don't know how he & I can get along so well--this weekened, Disney World--but it doesn't make any difference in his odd thinking. I wish he would have stayed on his anti-depressants...<P>I don't know how the situation with his housemate dating OW is going, he refused to talk about it. I hope it's hell for my H & that X & OW fall deeply into addicted love.<BR>

hi lor, catch me up please. Your h's roommate is now sleeping with your h's ow? Maybe i need to get more focused and reread the post. <BR>Nope, this is not plan b. Yes, you blew it. Yes, you already know that harley does not rec this action. So?? What is the question and why the firing squad?! <BR>You feel as if you were weak and selfish? Are we all not that way sometimes? There is room for slipups even in plan b. <BR>It will be okay. In fact it may have been really great for him to see you in such a positive light with the kids and family. <BR>Back to plan b girl! (((hugs))) cl

No, never the firing squad for you, Lor...your H...maybe.<P>cl has an important point. Now the weekend is over, resist the urge to go back to plan A unless you see a real honest to goodness breakthough.<P>No expectations. No calls. No not one. No e-mails. Go about your life. It is great that he has these recent good memories. Let him think about them while you calmly go about your life with dignity and purpose.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Hi, Lor. If you're still set on Plan B, I agree w/ FHL. You've made a huge deposit and left him with nothing but good thoughts. Wouldn't hurt him a bit to think about them and how much he misses you.<P>Personally, I think you handled the weekend great. I'd have probably done the same thing. (OOOOHHHHH - maybe that's NOT the best thing to do then!!!!)<P>Hang in there, be strong. I'm pulling for you.<P>Lori

I'd jump back into plan b. After your nice weekend, he's going to have those happy thoughts in his head. Let him miss you!

Definately go back to Plan B. If he inquires as to why you aren't talking to him again, calmly explain that although you had a nice weekend, this is not how life works. Decisions need to be made and you need to stick by your.<P>Good Luck there girlfriend! It seems as though you have your head on straight. You know you made a boo boo, but can see the benefit init as well.<P>------------------<BR>What does not kill you will only make you stronger.<BR>

CL, yep, you read right. My H's housemate "X" is dating OW. I imagine they got together when H moved home & she called there for H. X has invited me to come sleep with him when H wasn't there, so he probably did the same with her & she (the twit) took him up on it. I wish them VERY WELL.<P>FHL, you'll be glad to know I didn't call at all yesterday. He called twice. Once in the afternoon when he knew only I would be here. I spoke very nicely but shortly, the second call I gave to my daughter and I didn't get back on. He also came by & took out the garbage this morning--without coming into the house.<P>Lori, Janie, Torn thanks for the support. You've all been through the separation stuff and know how hard it is to make those decisions day in & out. So far I haven't reached the peace of mind B is supposed to give, but since I had major contact, I'm probably in "withdrawal" . <P>H has the kids tonight. The 14 year old won't stay with him, but she'll spend the evening. Just as well, it'll keep me on the straight and narrow. The guy that has been flirting with me invited me on his trip to Argentina... . Apparently he's not so harmless. And me with my major fantasy to escape to Mexico...just a little too close to being perfect.<P>Good grief a troubled marriage is difficult and it seems to get more complicated the longer we stay in this limbo.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Do not get tired of doing what is right, for after awhile you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not get discouraged and give up. (Gal 6:9)<P>

That Argentina trip sounds awful tempting. Aren't you glad God doesn't allow temptation to come at you more than you can handle? <P>I think you did okay for the weekend, and you don't deserve a firing squad. <P>And, remember plan B was for you, not for your husband. Plan B is for you to not have to live with the back and forth stuff if you can't handle it. It seems to me that although your husband is at an impasse in his feelings of withdrawal and confusion about his relationship with OW, that you handled yourself WELL.<P>So, you are not in line for a firing squad here, young lady. <P>