I was thinking about a stash run but had a moment of smart thinking. I really need to get some things done at home....trust me. Christmas is coming. If I am a smart woman, I will take care of the needs here before having fun. It just is the grown-up choice. Besides, if I don't clean up, I can't find my cordless phone whose battery is exhausted and I can't have a place to put the Christmas tree.

Lordy, where are your priorities girl??? :twobyfour:

You have 25 days till Christmas!!

I guess tomorrow is the day I get to sift through paperwork. I'm really p1ssed about it. It still ticks me off that WH wanted nothing to do with any paperwork or finances for 35 years and now I'm the criminal being investigated. And the continued lies. Now I'm starting to get really mad. Just not the person I knew. Gee, how many times have I heard that around here?

I went to a gathering with a friend and her family tonight. It made me miss my own family.

Lots to do tomorrow, so going to bed early tonight.

Yeah, Chai, that's right. WE'RE the bad guys!! Why? Because...WE ARE BREATHING!!!! HA HA HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!

I'll trade you. You can come and sift through this...this...DEBRIS!! For lack of a better word. No, actually, there is no better word for it!!

I am constantly astounded at all the STUFF "you-know-who" accumulated by buying and buying and buying and buying and buying and blowing $15,000+ in ONE month at one point...and buying....



It's UNREAL!! I am SO glad that OWH didn't have to come over to do his real estate appraisal--(he's my EXPERT witness now, LOL! Thank you, Shiny!)--NOW I am embarrassed by all of this stuff. I need to get it in some semblance of order so when OWH & Shiny DO need to come over here I won't have to be TOO embarrassed!!

But they know who the culprit is. Because the culprit is STILL buying things!!

Yet....I am the one who gets blamed for our money problems, as the Dark Side loves to suggest. Whatever!! :RollieEyes:

I'm curious to see what will happen in...less than two weeks!! 11 days to go now!! COUNTDOWN TO MEDIATION!

I am wondering if Gray is going to show up in a wheelchair or what since ODS reported to XW#1 that Gray has been in and out of hospitals all year!

Yeah, and Slag will be along to push him into Shiny's conference room dressed in her Florence Nightingale get-up, right?

Charlotte

Well, if there is no holiday time with The Diplomat, I just may be needing yarn between Christmas and New Years.

CL,


DEFINITELY!

You doing ok?

ditto.

Hey Cinders, Luna,

Thanks for checking in. I've been on the road this week with little access to MB.

I've actually had a pretty good week. I picked up my car and they did a great job. It took 32 days for them to fix it, so they had plenty of time.

I then stayed with my friend all week. She actually owns a business like mine, so we try to work together and help each other out. Being in different states means we don't really compete with each other.

Anyway, it's been an up week. In fact one day I surprised myself by realizing at noon that I hadn't thought of WH, the A, the D, the BS (NOT betrayed spouse), etc. Maybe it means I'm getting there.....

DD has not found a place to live yet which scares the h3ll out of me. She is still convinced that she is coming to my place. I know that I can't let her. I just won't expose myself to that world. I got an earful because I'm not excited about the baby, but how can I be? The poor little thing may come into this world addicted, one parent for sure in jail and the other likely in jail, no home, and probably health issues. It just isn't the way I expected to greet the first grandchild. Heartbreaking.

Anyway, DD mentioned WH several times and it seems that he is back in town a lot. He's such a jerk. He keeps telling her that because of me and the D, he can't afford to buy the baby this or that, or afford to get her a place to live, etc. He was going to get an apartment for her, but because I filed for support and he had to get a new atty, well, he can't do it now. What a crock of excrement. Running up debt on credit cards had nothing to do with it I guess. Oh, yeah, I forgot that those were reward cards - he accumulated one rutting point for evey dollar spent. Sounds like OP quit redeeming the rutting points when his cards reached the credit limit.

So this week, I'd like to give him a Plan FU that he could stick somewhere. Who knows where I'll be next week.

Will try to catch up on all threads tonight....

And you can rest easily knowing you have not nor will you ever spew such excrement, Chai.

He still hasn't found the bottom yet. He keeps finding new places to dig.

CL

Hi CL,


I liked reading about this.

ME TOO!!!!!!

The vets told us it would happen. It just takes OUR OWN time....

It's wonderful when it happens, isn't it!

Oh yes, it is.....

Thanks for checking in guys. Yes, take advantage of it when it happens because it seems to be a week-by-week thing.

I've been sick since yesterday, and really haven't felt like talking, but DD called today so I answered. She wants me to sign for an apartment, but I can't do it. There is a 100% chance that I would get stuck with the rent and I just can't afford it. I told her to ask her dad to do it. She said that he was coming over tomorrow. He must have mentioned the court date to her because she asked me about it. She said that he's mad because he didn't want this. He only said that he didn't want to be M because he didn't want to deal with stuff. Whatever that means. Translated, it means I wanted to go with OP but OP now dropped me so I didn't mean it. I'm not even sure DD is telling the truth anyway, but with him back in town so much I'm sure the A is in trouble or over.

I've thought of extending the olive branch, but I guess I'm just not sure that is what I want anymore. Oh, I don't want to be D'd. No BS does, but I'm just not sure I could get over all the damage done. There would have to be an awful lot of effort and remorse on his part, and I've not seen any of that at all.

Going back to bed now. Can't seem to shake whatever this is. I think I feel good until I get up, then I realize that I don't. UGH.

Get better, Chai! We all miss you here.

I do mainly because you have had the backbone to do what my grandmother cannot seem to do with my uncle and father--it's nice to see a mother who can "let her children go" as it were, and let them suffer the consequences of their decisions. I admire you for that.

Wish I had some chicken soup for you. I think you are dealing with both dramas as well as could be expected. Truth is, we don't always get what we want. Nope, we don't. Uh-huh.

And it just plain sucks.....

Not only that but, because God gave us free choice and we don't always make God-centered choices, God doesn't always get what he wants either. He wants our hearts but some people don't want to give them to him.

That stinks, too.

Actually that stinks more.

His needs and wants are WAY MORE important than me.....