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If OM show up at my house I thought I would call a county sheriff and have them show up at the house with me, and have it all documented in a report. I would call the sherirr and tell them that my wife is having an A and the OM is at my house. Can you please meet me at my home while I confront OM and my W.
I was thinking to call OMW and have her meet me there as well. I just have a strong gut feeling that something is going to go down. You can bet that OM knows I or the kids are not goin gto be home tonight. And if he shows up why on earth would he be there without me being there (WE ALL KNOW). My conversation with OMW would go like this "Mem I caleed you several weeks ago about what is going on with my w and your h and you did not believe me. Do you know where your h is right now? Her answer. No mem he is at my house with my w and I am not there but I am on my way would you like to meet me there to see for yourself what is really going on? oh my!  be careful and cautious -
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May I just add...
The waywards that bring the stolemeat home make my skin crawl.
I need a shower now.
(shudder)
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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My kids will be with me tonight in a quit setting. A place that they both love to go. It is another property that I own. Tonight I will tell both of my precious girls that daddy loves them more than anything in this world and then tell them what is going on with thier mom.
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very careful. If OM shows up I will not enter my home alone if he is in there.
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I will not have computer access until Monday. I will let everyone know what happens today on Monday. Thanks for all of the support. Today is a tuff day, probably the tuffest of my life or at least for over a year since I have been going through this.
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HG...I really really hope you head straight to D if you get the evidence of sex that you expect because if you change your mind an decide on recovery you will never forgive yourself for not trying to prevent the sex by exposing sooner.
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Hope that everything went okay last night.
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I really need some help now. There were 3 PI watching my W Friday night. The kids and I were out of town and all my W did was leave work, go to the drug store, and go home. She was watched all night, and noone came to the house or she never left. What do I do now. I really need some help with this. It was the perfect opportunity for her and OM to do something and nothing happened. Is this really an A, or am I just chasing something that is not there. Could they just be friends? I need some help from everyone on trying to figure out what is really going on here.
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just because it was a good night for your WW does not mean that her "friend" could get free.
This is NOT a friendship...the I love you's did away with that possibility. So get that silliness out of your head for good.
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What do I do now. They had all week to make plans for Friday night. How do I find the truth now? I need everyone's thoughts, ideas, and suggestions on which way to go. I am kind of at a loss of words. I have been really confused all weekend and wondering what is really going on. the same old things started this morning. w tried to get in the shower with me and then left me a voice mail at work.
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Well, that was ONE of the possibilities.
What do you want? A DV? A better marriage?
If the former, you've already said that your lawyer told you that you had enough with the DWI.
If the latter, call the Harleys.
-ol' 2long
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I would like a beter marraige, but I am not sure what is going on with my W. everyone says it is an A, but there is no real evidence, except for some text messaging, hiding, and the way that she has made herself distant to me, the marriage, and the family. I am really confused at this point. I thought for sure that if my W and OM had the opportunity that something would happen, and nothing happened.
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Maybe his wife suspected and made sure he couldn't make it.
Time is on your side. Just hold out and see what happens; look for clues. You'll get there.
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I would like a beter marraige, but I am not sure what is going on with my W. everyone says it is an A, but there is no real evidence, except for some text messaging, hiding, and the way that she has made herself distant to me, the marriage, and the family. I am really confused at this point. I thought for sure that if my W and OM had the opportunity that something would happen, and nothing happened. PAY ATTENTION. Your wife and another man exchanged "I love you's" Your wife has been hiding her communications with him. THIS IS AN AFFAIR. Pull your head from your posterior and recognize that these actions alone constitute an affair. Your wife is NOT a good person right now. I doubt she really ever was. Look at this as though these things were happening to your friend or child...what would you think. Call your attorney and get the custody issue settled before it is too late.
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I know that there is some kind of relationship going on here. I do not feel like I have the proof to do major expsoure at this point. If a PI can not catch them then how can I. I really need the truth to what is going on then I will know what direction that I really want to go.
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I will be calling my attorney with an update. I know that there is some sort of relationship going on, I am jsut not sure what kind it is. If it is a PA it would have to be going on at work. I want to expose so bad and I had my hopes up that I would get what I needed Friday, but nothing. She alwasy seems to be one step ahead. Someone told me over the weekend to hang in there, if there is an affair going on they always slip up.
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She alwasy seems to be one step ahead. Is it possible that she knows about your posts to this forum?
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How much money have you spend on the PIs so far?
Call the Harleys.
If you want 2 try 2 save this marriage, you don't need 2 get more evidence by setting things up so your W and the OM can get physical if they haven't already - you need 2 prevent that.
You know she's having at least an EA, though it's probably a PA (even if they've just kissed, that's physical). You don't need proof of what you already know. You need help with the next step.
Call the Harleys.
-ol' 2long
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I would not think so. The only way she would know is if she found this website to and is wanting to work on our marriage. But with her actions I do not believe that either.
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Knowing waynerds, I'm betting his BW put up a fuss and he couldn't sneak away.
I'd bet my left pinkie toe on it.
His wife has the seed o'doubt and it's a'sproutin' BIG TIME.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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