Well, tommorrow is our first counselling session.

Some things have happened in the past couple of weeks that I think are positive;

First, She got a large loan to pay off several credit cards, a personal loan and a car loan. The last time I posted, we were near separation and had agreed to go to a professional MC and IC.
My IC for my anxiety etc.., and her IC for her gambling, bipolar, shopping etc... and MC for the obvious. Anyways, at that time she had already received the loan funds and the original personal loan was automatically paid. This meant she had the funds for her C-Cards and car loan in her bank account. She also owes myself and her mom $450 each for her last gambling run before my last post. Both her mother and I told her to pay her bills FIRST, before paying us back.

Well, since then she has been to the casino on 2 or 3 occasions. Each time losing around $1500, so today everything except the car loan, myslef and her mom are paid. This is not good, as now she has 2 loan payments.

At any rate, the last time she was there, losing her last $1200 last week, she may have hit rock bottom (again). she left to get "milk" at around 8pm, and didnt get home until about 2am. I was asleep when she got home, but when I got up for work at 7am she was still awake. She had stayed up all night stressing about what she had done and the fact that she was broke. That morning she cooked me breakfast, and the first thing she said to me was "can you please look into whatever help I can get for my gambling, I have now come to realize that it is far stronger than me"

she then offered to give me her bank card (i agreed to take it), and we cut her her very last credit card.

I should also add, I have exposed the gambling problem and the extent of it to her sister (she had no idea).



Now, as far as the OM from germany, the last time she emailed him was the 13th of nevember when she sent him the sexy halloween pics I took of her.
Well, he finally responded this sunday (she has not seen it yet).
His email starts with "Hot, Hot, Hot, Hot, Hot, Hot!!!" (referring to pics)
he then talks about his trip to canada a bit, mentions that hecould get used to travelling to canada. He also says he will have to find some pics for her now, and he also mentions Xmas. He says he has some shoppoing to do and wonders what He will get for xmas. He then says "maybe I will get the second half of those very very hot and sexy pictures?? Ofcourse the pictures are not intended for children, only adults"
ends off with the normal "kiss".

During our talk a cpl weeks ago, her defense on the pictures was that it shouldn't be a problem because she posted one of the pictures on facebook. Well, whatever. This OM obviously thinks the pics are for adult eyes, so I guess they cant be to innocent huh.

So, Our counselling seesion is tommorrow, and I suspect she will see his email today.

IF she responds to him, do I bring it up before the counselling session, at the session, or just wait til the right time at counselling as the gambling problem is likely to take first priority with the counsellor.

also, can anyone think of a way for me to find out OM's wife, email etc...? I have no clue who she is, she is half way round the world, but I would sure like to expose these emails to her.