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Help! I need a new IM! #2171549 12/09/08 08:45 AM
Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 574 B bestfriend439 Member
bestfriend439 Member B Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 574	I need a new IM! The woman who was doing it for us: a. is starting to feel "in the middle." and b. sent me a whole long email with her opinion about how I need to do "whatever" to focus on the future. I didn't even read the whole thing. Is anyone still willing to do that? It would be via email and I guess text. He's been very compliant, but I need someone ASAP! Thanks! BF439 P.S. I'm in the midwest, USA Me:BS40 WXH:42 DD15; DS13; DD6 D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08 WH moved out 9/15/08 D: 1/15/10 "So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country." "Keep calm and carry on." -- Winston Churchill

Re: Help! I need a new IM! bestfriend439 #2171627 12/09/08 10:47 AM
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bestfriend439 Member B Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 574	anyone?? Me:BS40 WXH:42 DD15; DS13; DD6 D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08 WH moved out 9/15/08 D: 1/15/10 "So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country." "Keep calm and carry on." -- Winston Churchill

Re: Help! I need a new IM! bestfriend439 #2171843 12/09/08 03:08 PM
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bestfriend439 Member B Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 574	bumping this in case some one hasn't seen it. Me:BS40 WXH:42 DD15; DS13; DD6 D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08 WH moved out 9/15/08 D: 1/15/10 "So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country." "Keep calm and carry on." -- Winston Churchill

Re: Help! I need a new IM! bestfriend439 #2171980 12/09/08 07:50 PM
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bestfriend439 Member B Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 574	dancing machine? Pepperband? anyone interested? My previous IM said she feels to "wimpy" to deal with him! Anyone up for the challenge? BF439 Me:BS40 WXH:42 DD15; DS13; DD6 D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08 WH moved out 9/15/08 D: 1/15/10 "So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country." "Keep calm and carry on." -- Winston Churchill

Re: Help! I need a new IM! bestfriend439 #2171983 12/09/08 08:11 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 11,245 C catperson Member
catperson Member C Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 11,245	I was hoping someone more dependable would speak up. I don't mind dealing with him, but I can't guarantee when I will be able to check emails.

Re: Help! I need a new IM! catperson #2171985 12/09/08 08:17 PM
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bestfriend439 Member B Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 574	Thanks, catperson! Dancing Machine offered earlier, so there still might be others interested, but I really need someone who won't pass on crap I don't need to see. Let's keep this post active and see if anyone else is interested who is more available to check email. If not, I'd be honored to have you as an IM! BF439 Me:BS40 WXH:42 DD15; DS13; DD6 D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08 WH moved out 9/15/08 D: 1/15/10 "So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country." "Keep calm and carry on." -- Winston Churchill

Re: Help! I need a new IM! bestfriend439 #2172040 12/09/08 11:08 PM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,698 New Zealand L lildoggie Member
lildoggie Member L Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,698 New Zealand	I don't think I will be of much use to American MBer's because of the time difference, but if a kiwi comes up, I'll do it Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday

Re: Help! I need a new IM! lildoggie #2172076 12/10/08 01:09 AM
Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 90 I idey58 Member
idey58 Member I Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 90	BF, I may be new to MB, but I am not new to trying to help save others M. My STBXH and I started to have problems 2 years ago (hmmm....just when OW stepped into the pic, go figure) and I have been a member of DB and 40/60. I have read just about everything there is to read on A's and D and have tried to be there for all of my fellow friends in pain. If you need someone who is impartial and can filter the fog, I would be willing to step up and help you. I will not pass on anything but the facts of what is being requested. I can def see the advantage of having NC so WE can find peace in our lives. I just wanted to offer. I dont work because I am recovering from cancer (yes, he left we while I was going through chemo) so can monitor his email fairly regularly. If you are interest contact me. Just want to help someone else who is in as much pain as me.... Shari Me - LBW 37 Him - WAH 37 Son 9 Married 18 years Together 20 ILYNILWU - Aug 07 Moved out for 2 weeks Dec 07 Moved out again and still gone Mar 08 OW Bomb - May 08 He ask for D - July 08

Re: Help! I need a new IM! bestfriend439 #2172096 12/10/08 03:54 AM
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Dancing_Machine Member D Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 3,278	Originally Posted by bestfriend439 dancing machine? Pepperband? anyone interested? My previous IM said she feels to "wimpy" to deal with him! Anyone up for the challenge? BF439 Hi BF, I'm still here if you need me. Just holler!! Charlotte

Re: Help! I need a new IM! Dancing_Machine #2172101 12/10/08 06:51 AM
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bestfriend439 Member B Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 574	Great! I need a new IM -- mine doesn't feel like she can stand up to him, gives me way too much advice and passes on stuff I don't need! How would this work to make direct contact? I'll put up my email for awhile today -- let me know when you've got it! Thanks, so much!!!! BF439 Last edited by bestfriend439; 12/10/08 08:56 AM. Me:BS40 WXH:42 DD15; DS13; DD6 D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08 WH moved out 9/15/08 D: 1/15/10 "So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country." "Keep calm and carry on." -- Winston Churchill

Re: Help! I need a new IM! bestfriend439 #2172115 12/10/08 07:37 AM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 3,278 D Dancing_Machine Member
Dancing_Machine Member D Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 3,278	Originally Posted by bestfriend439 Great! I need a new IM -- mine doesn't feel like she can stand up to him, gives me way too much advice and passes on stuff I don't need! How would this work to make direct contact? I'll put up my email for awhile today -- let me know when you've got it! Thanks, so much!!!! BF439 email: Got it, BF! Charlotte

Re: Help! I need a new IM! Dancing_Machine #2172153 12/10/08 09:07 AM
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bestfriend439 Member B Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 574	Great! Thanks again! When you get a chance could you edit out my email in the quote? Thanks! BF439 Me:BS40 WXH:42 DD15; DS13; DD6 D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08 WH moved out 9/15/08 D: 1/15/10 "So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country." "Keep calm and carry on." -- Winston Churchill

Re: Help! I need a new IM! bestfriend439 #2172307 12/10/08 12:16 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 3,278 D Dancing_Machine Member
Dancing_Machine Member D Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 3,278	Originally Posted by bestfriend439 Great! Thanks again! When you get a chance could you edit out my email in the quote? Thanks! BF439 Oh CRAP!! I'm sorry! I should have done that to begin with. That's what I get for waking up and not being able to get back to sleep!! It's done, now. :twobyfour: :crosseyedcrazy: Charlotte

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