REMAIN CALM if/when police arrive. She will want to make you out as a raving lunatic. Be the opposite.

Well, the police came and did their duty to see what's going on. They said that there is nothing that they can legally do. The cops got us both to agree to go to our separate rooms and shut the doors.

So here I am in my room.

Interesting night so far.

You mean its not illegal in your state to go into your wife's bedroom? WOW!!

Do you really want to wast your life with this evil woman?

Apparently not, to the great chagrin of my wife... Anyway, she says that she will be moving out soon because the ghetto apartment landlord says that a place will be available soon. Just what I always wanted for our kids. To live in a ghetto.

I can accept the fact that my marriage may be over but it's harder to accept the fact that my kids have to go through this because of the selfishness of their mother. One thing that comforts me is to know that some great people have gone through some tough childhood experiences.

Under NO circumstances should you allow her to remove the kids (well certainley your kid) from the home without a court order.

Do you have any legal rights to your step children?

Ugh, she's back in her room turbo-typing to OM. I'm going to let it go tonight. I don't want the cops storming into our home again tonight. They practically beat the door down when they got here. I thought the kids would wake up for sure. I'm just going to put on a DVD or something and fall asleep.

OKAY PULL THE INTERNET NOW!!! and take the phone and say "good night sweet heart" and go to bed

I hope you will be making some phone calls to attorneys tomorrow so you can find a good one.

Charlotte

Erich, first off, this is not over at all. TALK IS CHEAP. The likelihood of your marriage surviving is MUCH GREATER than her affair surviving. Your marriage has a 50% chance of making it, her affair has a 5%. 95% of all affairs crumble.

just keep that in mind and don't give up until its really over. It aint over. Her affair is living on borrowed time on very, very thin ice.

I would let her know that she won't be moving your son out without a legal custody order in hand and that you will be fighting to keep your son there. She needs to know you won't make it easy. That is the STICK. Just keep quietly telling her how tough you will make it.

The flip side is to do your best to attract her back. Meet her needs, avoid lovebusters [lovebusters are NOT exposure and taking a firm stance against her adultery] and stay ahead of her game.

You are doing great, Erich. Just hang in there.

she is in there WHINING and B*TCHING TO BEAT THE BAND!! And the OM gets to hear all her caterwauling!

This A has brought out the worst in my WW. I know she is acting evil right now but I have to believe that it's the effects of the fog. I'm sure my wife is looking very "Jerry Springer"-ish to OM. I saw what she typed to OM before the cops came. She just told him that she had to call the cops because of me. She's trying to demonize me to him. I'm sure this A will not last.


I will tell her this.


I will try to find opportunities to meet her needs. I committed to a six month plan and that's what I'm going to do. What exactly do you mean about staying ahead of her game? Do you mean about trying to influence her plans to move out?

I appreciate your encouragement. I think you are the only one here who still wants me to try to salvage/rebuild this marriage!

I will do whatever I can legally to prevent my wife from removing my son from our home. I don't know if I have any legal rights to our step-children. I have not adopted them nor could I because their dad's are active in our step-children's lives and would not allow that.

I mean sticking to your plan and being strategic just like you have been. They are sloppy and unorganized, you have a PLAN. You have all the advantage, they are at a disadvantage.

lol. Already tried pulling the internet. She has a wireless network card and she can pick up internet from an unsecured wireless network nearby... As for the phone, she pays for her own cell phone. It actually may be illegal for me to take that.

I have been seriously thinking about sabotaging her network card when she's not here though. But if she doesn't have internet, she'll just go for a drive in her car and talk to him with her cell phone... I don't know which is worse, hearing her typing or wondering where she's at and when she's going to come home again.

You really are doing great.

One thing I wanted to mention is that when she tells OM "I am yours FOREVER" and other gooey nonsense, it's because the affair has to have that kind of bigger-than-life, over-the-top talk all the time just to keep it going. They say that stuff not because it's true, but to feed the fantasy and to try and keep it alive.

You need to meet with a good lawyer ASAP, and have a plan for when she tries to move out and remove your child from the home. You should have documents drawn up and ready to file when it happens. If she does move out, it may be your best opportunity to gain a favorable custody position. If you get a favorable custody ruling, it may be the best opportunity to save your M. Do not let this opportunity slide. Also, it won't be long before she starts making up claims of abuse when she calls the cops. Call a lawyer today!

Yeah, I've been putting this part off. I need to start calling around to find a "bulldog" attorney. I'll start on that today..

Yeah, this is getting a little scary. She is a vet through two Ds already. Now the cops have a file going under "domestic". Next time she is going to say you were drunk or hit a kid or threatened her life. You'll be the onbe looking at the government housing with a TRO against you.

Lawyer up, and with someone that knows this hardball stuff.

I called my lawyer who helped defend me from a lawsuit against my business. He referred me to a lawyer who specializes in custody divorce cases. He says she is very good. I'll meet with her early next week.

Wife went out with OM last night from 8:30PM to 7:00AM this morning. I told her prior to her leaving that I would not watch our son so that she could go out with OM. She sneaked out the door when I wasn't watching and took off. I'm keeping all of this in a daily journal in case I need this info for a divorce.

She's been pretty nice to me today. Must be because she feels like she is getting her way. I don't know. I helped her around the house and made her crack a smile a few times with some things I said that were kind of humorous.

I just hope she doesn't try to pull another turbo-type-athon with OM tonight because I will do the same thing as last time and she'll have to call the cops again I guess...

I am physically and emotionally exhausted from this battle but it must press on.